"What attracts Filipinas to Englishmen, and vice versa?" (Lots of answers, please)

Kuya - we have an Incompatibility Issue! (I'm using Chrome and it works for me)

Bjorn - thanks for trying. If you are willing to try the long way round, its in the Europinoy section of this forum .

Thanks, oss, totally my fault for wasting Bjorn's time.

Sorry, Bjorn.

Anyway, my conclusions were:


I don't know that there is a conclusion to be found, other than these:

1. The indications seem to be that relationships with a big age gap often do succeed rather well. This does depend on the people involved being sensible enough to think through the issues carefully, first.

2. Such relationships are NOT "socially acceptable", either in Britain or in the Philippines. The assumption is always going to be that the younger woman is a gold digger after the silly old fool's money and that he is a dirty old man. The idea that big age differences are acceptable in the Philippines is wrong.

3. These relationships are on borrowed time because at some point the infirmities of age are going to catch up with the older partner. This can happen quite suddenly.

4. If you have thought it through, and you both think the social stigma and the relatively shorter time available together is worth it, go ahead.

Bjorn, read your blog and can totally relate!

I'm in agreement here, whether in the Phils or UK, a young lady with an old chap in tow always turns heads for the wrong reasons. Couldn't stand the embarrassment myself but good luck them anyway as there are always exceptions to the rule. Funnily enough, when I first informed family and friends of my relationship with a Filipina most of them immediately asked her age with a smile LOL, by the way the good lady is 6 years younger than me.

By the way Bjorn, good blog

Interesting point about turning heads for the wrong reasons. Come to think of it, when Kay and I were getting together, that was the very point that we discussed - not "Is this relationship inappropriate?" but "What will we look like together and what can we do about it?" (Answer - "I am putting you on a diet - and get down to the gym!" - she has also taken over my wardrobe!)

Well she probably has a lot more clothes than you! As long as your wardrobe is the only thing that she has taken over that starts with the letter "w", I think you're pretty safe!

I meant that she has quietly taken over the choosing and buying of the clothes that I wear!

Ah but have you a reciprocal arrangement with her? That would be right and proper, methinks!

Quietly being the operative word. My husband is actually pleased that I have "taken over" his wardrobe. Makes him look great and stylish plus he gets to try different things that he normally wouldn't

I actually don't find Philipino women attractive. Only my wife. I've met her friends and I don't particularly fancy them. And I don't really like their attitude to life and towards their husbands. Not my type at all.

She says I'm handsome (and, of course, I agree). She thought that England would be full of handsome men, but says it isn't.

We're a right bundle of laughs, us two.

We're also a large age difference couple (25 years) and not once has this been an issue. It's not something we even think about really other than have the odd joke about - such as when a tv show called "Age Gap Love" was on the other day. The only time we've had to seriously think about it was when we applied for a visa and it said that you need to be vigilant in your application if there is a large age difference.

Ha ha. Not at all. She'd have probably been horrified that I was dissing her mates if she was.

Social Weather Stations have just published the results of a survey it's less serious than their usual stuff (excellent - remember they correctly predicted the true results of Marcos' "snap election") and may be connected to the date:

http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/151386/9-out-of-10-filipinos-prefer-sense-of-humor-to-good-looks

The other nation that scores "GSOH" very highly is of course the British.

Its says that Filipinos prefer sense of humour to good looks, Phew thank god for that LOL

Seriously, I think some of the lies they tell are not true
Good looks far out way a GSOH, in my book to have both is best like our Filipina beauties.

Would not want good looks at the price of a foul temper.

But a witty woman is usually a very sexy one.

I described my first meeting with the lady in the picture on the left as "half the time my tongue was hanging out and half the time I was laughing, usually at myself!"