Advice pls. My guy is best friends with his ex.

Really? that maybe why you ask for advise, just saying

I'm not saying you should do the same. I'm saying if he wouldn't be okay with you doing it, then he shouldn't do it himself.

Having had female friends myself, and knowing how these things work, I personally think he's mugging you. But that's only based on forum posts and not reality, so I can't be sure of that.

And uhhmm, i should have stayed quiet lol..i'm putting a period now and Zip my gub.

This is true sir, because you see nothing about their friendship on facebook. Which is my only tool guide in learning about his interests and connections other than the things he tells me, of course. I'd not have known of her existence if he chose not to confide. We take honesty and openness seriously because sooner or later we will both learn more of each other anyway.

The tampo is the new mystery of the world to him. Ugh, sometimes he's ready with an apology though even before he knows what's wrong.

Ate Nickel, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to offend you in any way. Your opinions matter to me, please be assured.

Ahh. I get you now. What does "mugging" means in this context sir?

Taking you for a mug, madam.

Oh! Who in the world would do that to a girl such as myself though. Not him, anyway

I'm not offended, it's just that, i thought you want us to give you our opinions on the questions you raised, which i believed bothered you , and that's the reason you seek for advise, in fact you were asking for a or from a woman's point of view, but it seems you don't need them as you are already feeling comfortable and is willing to give your bf the benefit of the doubt.We were only showing you the real picture of how it is to be respected...and of course loved! Ahh maybe because you said you're young that is why it looks like you don't treat these advises seriously..but believe you me..... A man who respects you even if no one would tell him or no one would remind him, is worth keeping.You don't need to show him our opinions and advises in order for him to realize he had over boarded or has taken your relationship for granted..or should i say, made you turn for advises.
I really hope he will give you what you ought to deserve.
And lastly, just a piece of advise... all of us here....went through some tough times and hardships on the visa process..takes a lot of seriousness, so you guys must be seriously committed, regardless of how you perceive "being confident" is.I know you know what i meant.

Thank you, I felt bad as I thought you took offense. Yes, right now, everything is fine. I agree, I don't need to make him read the things written in this thread. Thank you I appreciate that, I know that being together for a long time would not be an easy thing to achieve. If things go well between us, I'd hope to seek advice again from the people on this forum. Still a long way though. Thanks again xx

Stick around - its nice to have ladies here...

Yeah, I'm actually roaming around, scanning other topics that are here. Chris asked me if people here are nice and helpful with regards to information we should be knowing about and how to make things work. He has no idea about this thread though.

Most popular thread is "Visas and Immigration"

Are you sure he has no idea about the thread?

Yes sir, we're both at work right now. Hoo Ha. He asked me how's my day going and I told him I've just been reading things on a forum during free time, he remembered this forum immediately (we read about the things a staff member named Kuya posted before I was a member) and asked if this was the forum I was on. I said yeah and so he asked those above.

Probably wouldn't do him any harm reading the thread anyway, it may help as a wake up call.

I'm not against the idea. I can give him the link later when he gets home.

A trait she shares with mine .....

Update: Chris has read everything written on this thread. He took it well. He said some of the responses made him think. And even commented on KeithAngel's philosophical responses. He registered but couldn't view anything earlier until he was accepted.

If the forum has served a purpose for both or either of you then that's a result in my eyes.