Pregnant ex-gf moving back to PH

Dave, what does AYFH and AHFH mean?

i agree, her behaviour is strange to me.

she is a very attractive woman, she has multiple thousands of followers on TikTok, she once told me that she gets propositioned all the time, every day, not just on social media but also in every day life.

I’m a relatively confident person, and so I wasn’t too worried, but it certainly was a red flag. At the time she was very attached to me, and loved me and even said that she would delete her TikTok account if it made me happy.

She says she can’t trust me…

Most of us here in this forum have Filipina wives or girlfriends and love is not always plain sailing. even when both are British. We're all human and we all make mistakes sometimes and you have the dynamic of her being Filipina too, which adds another dimension.
In my experience Filipnas can be very jealous and you having another girlfriend was a big problem for her and she could be messing you about because of this.
Jeez, my wife once threw something at me because I said that Michelle Keegan on Coronation Street had nice eyebrows.
I never make comments in public about other women but I stand my ground in arguments and I am far from being a pushover. I will verbally let her "have it" but never lay hands on her.
My wife and I have had many bumps in the road but we have mellowed as time moves on and we have two children also to consider.
Better get used to drama if you stay with your Filipina.

At no point do you refer to what’s best or what the unborn would want, need at be best for the unborn.
Would a completely unstable relationship be good for any child.
A relationship of miss trust, deceit, and instability would ultimately breakdown and impact the child.
Turning to you, do you really want a relationship that as you turn the key of the front door you don’t know what mood your walking into?
Yes a child needs parents but happy ones, if that happiness means the parents aren’t together so be it.
Be generous towards the unborn and think of him/ her not yourself

AYFH= Aff Yer Fecking Heid which is Scottish vernacular for Off Your F---ing Head.

Walk away mate she is just trouble and a bit of a slapper, go to Angeles city on holiday you will forget al about her, loads of nice girls there working on the base in the factories and of course all the bars loads of expats there will tell you the way of the world regarding woman from the phils , i had ten years living there unit, i found my wife and she has been great but they all have a bit of tampo in them, must admit trialled a few before i met her LOL, had four homes there four serious g/fs and a great lifestyle with plenty of great mates there , do miss it now residing back in U/K but hey ho its one big journey get out there and enjoy try Cebu and other places.

Sounds like frying pan into the fire haha !

Arf ya fookin head, must say it in a Scottish accent.

Could be a long (Lechon Baboy) ride ahead...
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it’s my parental right to love, support, care for and protect my child.

B will only swap in another man otherwise, how useful is that.

B is so stubborn and argumentative, and I’m really trying to compromise and convince her that our relationship can be stable and strong, but she seems quite adamant to do it her way. Love makes you try until breaking point.

Not saying it’s not your right as a parent to love and support the child!
What I am saying and you pretty much sum it up, you compromise to B’s needs, wants and whims if she lets you! and see yourself in a difficult relationship while she lets you be in it but you as the parents have to look at what’s right for the child!
You may convince her for now but from what you say I doubt it, and what does the future hold when the pressure of parenthood is on you both and beyond?
Anyway I wish you luck whatever you decide!

Weekend Update:

I met B on Thursday at a busy London railway station, after her shift finished. I planned a little sunset stroll along the Southbank and dinner at a restaurant overlooking the river.

When we met at the station, and I was surprised because she was standing behind me for a few seconds before I realised. I was checking a few messages on my phone which will become significant later on in the story…

We had a nice walk and talk, hand in hand with kisses and hugs, it felt better, but I sensed she was still hesitant and not as receptive as she used to be.

The evening finished well, we said goodbyes and agreed to meet on Saturday.

On Friday at Midnight I messaged her to ask how her evening was. I was staying with friends outside of London, and tried to reassure her by sending photos of my evening with friends. She replied saying that she had been crying since 7pm. I called her immediately, but as usually she never answered my calls. Naturally I was worried.

I called her again on Saturday, this time she did answer and explained that she was feeling emotional and she didn’t want to talk about it. I was left stumped, WTF. I told her that I was coming to see her, in the area where she lives.

Then she sent me a message asking me to answer a question honestly, to which I agreed without hestitation

“Are you talking to or dating any other woman?

I replied, definitely not, because I was focused on her. She then tells me that while she was standing behind me at the station, she saw me smiling whilst I was reading messages on my WhatsApp with hearts ♥️. I replied that I haven’t been dating or talking to girls, so it’s impossible. However, I showed her messages from my mother with hearts, and some of my rugby friends, we send each other kisses and hugs and hearts as a friendly joke. B didn’t believe me at all, and now believes I’m meeting other woman!

I literally can’t believe it. She’s gone cold again, and said that was the reason she was crying. I’ve told her that it doesn’t make any sense, but she is so stubborn and emotional, I can’t win. I said I would not apologise for something that I haven’t done.

We have a brief meeting Saturday l, it was frosty as hell, she is adamant she saw something on my phone and doesn’t trust me. And so we’ve been arguing via insta because she doesn’t pick up the phone and I’m blocked still on WhatsApp from her.

I decided to book a flight back to Europe tomorrow. She has wasted every opportunity we’ve had to be together. I’m not sure if she’s manipulative or just plain lazy at love. She is pregnant, not showing yet, but still.

she says that she loves me and that maybe in the future destiny will bring us back together, whatever the F@ck that means. I told her, destiny didn’t book me a flight to London, I did.

Today she asks me, where are you, when is your flight tomorrow. I told her and asked her why, she replied “Nothing!”.

So annoyed at her behaviour.

the more you air your dirty laundry the more senseless your situation appears. Have you actually had any confirmation that she is actually pregnant ? Dont know what age you both are, but the narrative reads like a pair of petulant teenagers who have just discovered that if the grass is growing then it’s ok to play on it !

Yes, it’s a toxic read, but don’t take it to heart, you’re not the one suffering, unless wordsmithness isn’t quite John Grisham . She has a bump, she hasn’t given me an ultrasound. And she’s in pain. We’re lower middle aged

You are quite correct Sir, this makes no sense to me either and I guess many others will feel the same way? in fact I would go on to say the whole story from the very start is just unbelievably Stupid.

As you say this man is airing his dirty laundry, if I was involved in this situation I would be keeping this to myself.

apologises, you said in your long post that she was pregnant but wasn’t showing yet ?!!

You wouldn’t notice the bump, it’s not showing, but I’ve touched it.