Pregnant ex-gf moving back to PH

hopefully I’ll be able to see the baby and determine that for myself. I have a small birth mark that runs in generations of my family.

Update: Today we met for dinner after work. She seemed genuinely happy to see me and I felt happy to see her, we hugged briefly amongst the commuters in a central London tube station. I gave her early Valentines flower and a card, which she read and seemed content with. We started talking chit chat, and I warmed up to asking about her pregnancy, and plans to go back to ph for birth or to stay in UK, and how it affected her ILR application, she agreed that these were the two options, but ideally she would like the option of staying in the UK. We talked pleasantly like friends, and the tone and attitude was the opposite of the usual avoidant insta messages, I’m still blocked on whatsapp. She was more engaged, and I said there was a third option, which I asked her to guess, but she pretended like she didn’t know, so I brought up marriage - an All-In strategy , it I also said that people shouldn’t get married just for citizenship, which she agreed. Then we played out a series of ‘what if’ scenarios, where we might be living together in ph or London or married, all very calmly and reserved. She stated that she’s wanted us to be together, but there is something holding her back. I explained to her that it’s because she doesn’t trust me or men, and that her fear of being in love and being hurt again is stopping her from making a leap of faith into the unknown. She agreed. This led to some bonding, holding of hands, walking, hugging and eventually kissing.

I walked her home and left, with the promise that we’ll see each other tomorrow for VD.

tbh, I was expecting the worse and this new outcome was what I was hoping for. But she may sleep on it, and change her mind.

Meanwhile, more chapters from the 'True Romance' novel would be nice though.

Happy Valentines !

Hi Tintin24....as Aromulus mentioned DNA.....be prepared also for a DNA test that may not be the one you are hoping for - it happens.

best thing you could do is simply leave her alone until such time as she contacts you.

Dont worry about the baby--i'm sure she will ask you for support when the time comes.

Happy Valentine’s Day

Yesterday ended on a high note, kisses before bedtime, good night messages, etc…

Today is literally like night and day. I sent B a morning message saying Happy Valentine’s Day, and suggested that I cook for her at my place or hers, as it was more intimate and I didn’t really fancy the London crowds, as we were at a restaurant yesterday.

Her responses, was surprising, but pretty standard, and followed a long list of why she couldn’t meets. Well well.

I live in Europe and travelled to London to specifically see her today, she know that as I planned it 1 month ago.

excuses:

- Me cooking for her isn’t special enough. Although she loved it last time.
- She doesn’t have other plans, but it disrupts her schedule.
- she doesn’t celebrate VD, as she’s always been single. Ahem.
- She’s at home, which is 30 mins by tube from where I am.

If there is a female reading this please enlighten me. How does her mood change so drastically overnight?

It’s pretty annoying.

Tbh If the baby isn’t mine, I’d be out, it’s too much nonsense

Ohhhh I never heard of that, many thanks for bringing it to my attention! That does make a lot of sense… So, it’s like sulking but on steroids?

Oh yes.
Deep love interspersed with deep anguish.
"It's more fun in the Philippines"
You gotta fight fire with fire... or you're sunk.
(You may get used to it after 10 years )

Her behaviour is indeed odd, very hot and cold. Her saying you cooking for her isn't enough would be a major red flag for me. She sounds very immature and not grounded to reality and generally a bit all over the place. I don't think she knows herself what she wants.

I'd honestly not go any further with her by what you are telling us…. Give her some distance, play along keep it cordial and sweet until you are in the position to get a DNA test. The result will tell you all you need to know.

I agree with Tintin his story sounds about right to me? who would make this up? it is just too stupid not to be true? dealing with a Pinay with the sense of a 10yr old I would suggest this is highly possible.

Very few men in their right mind would cater to such a woman in fact you would have to be AYFH and by all the accounts of what she has done and who she has been with and then trying to play one against the other she sound absolutely nuts to me. Mind you it sounds like TT is no better having an existing GF and then playing around with this Pinay, he must be AHFH? perhaps they are a perfect match?

For sure if it was me I would be gone in a flash and I am not one to walk away from my responsibilities, I support my young Son and his Mother there in PH and she seems to have someone else in her life other than myself?

Ok, I understand, thank you!

Hi, I’m not sure what AYFH so I can’t really comment on that. I was dating someone before, I was living alone. I don’t want to abandon my child. She says she is not currently with anyone, however she didn’t spend Valentine’s Day with me because of a list of excuses.

Thanks for the advice. I agree, there have been soooo many red flags, usually I wouldn’t accept it and I would walk away, but she has me by the b@lls because she is pregnant with my child, and I don’t want to lose contact with her, and lose my child in PH.

Ohhh ok, I really don’t like drama.