Finding love and relationships for the over 60s

It was. She spent half the tine saying: "Sorry, I'm not Thai," to people who went native on her.

She's had Thai people come up to her in Sainsbury's too, thinking she is Thai..

It may also be that women are seeking a stable, faithful, long term relationship than bed-hopping alternatives!

When in Thailand did your missus start to get peeved off after a while?

You say that having a difference in age can result in outlook that is hard to overcome, but so an being a different sex, a different nationality, a different class or many other things.

Many relationships just seem to chug along without any real compatibility. They just happen to be with whoever one got together with at a certain time and many people seem to rue the person they are stuck with. That's how it can be for many reasons.

As I've said many times, me and Mrs Me have a 25 year gap and have absolutely no age-related issues or differences whatsoever. Not one.

Hang on. I'll see if I can think of any.

Nope. None.

Therefore I conclude that any incompatibility issues between couples a not purely down to their differences in age, otherwise every age gap relationship would have them, and we haven't.

Not particularly. I think she was relatively amused by it if anything.

I just asked her how she felt and if it annoyed her . She says: 'No. Fine. It's nothing really.'

The reason I asked is because one day I will know doubt want to go there as its a much better place to visit than the Philippines, I'm more worried about me getting ticked off than the missus.

My sister in law who lives in Dubai took the family there a while back and had a really good time, its only a matter of time before I take the missus.

The only thing that ticked her off was when her hat blew off getting onto a boat and ended up floating down the river as we sailed into the distance.

She's been hatless ever since.

The hat in your avatar?

Yeah. So sad. At one point I thought she was going to have a memorial service for it!!

If you think about it, it's actually pretty cool to be able to go to a foreign country and look like a local rather than a tourist.

Also, if a European looking person came up to us here in blighty, we'd almost certainly start speaking English at them.

Like this you mean?

Yes. Where we live is very white, very upper-middle-class and very golf-club. Perhaps that's why @BlueberryCheeseCake rejoices in the label 'the only Filipina in the village.'

Just because differences in age can sometimes introduce challenges, it does not follow that all relationships with age gaps have incompatibilities. You seem to be reading something into my post that was not there to begin with. I actually just said that: "I would imagine that a large age difference introduces a difference in outlook that is sometimes challenging to overcome."

Got to ask do you live in or near Borough Green Sevenoaks?

If anyone says to my Kris "Me love you long time" when she gets over here they will have me to deal with. I will not simply laugh off such casual, offensive, racism.

Without being in any way complacent I don't envisage major problems here in Scotland - but there are moronic a-holes everywhere I guess.

I must ask my wife how old she is!!

That's right. And I was pointing out that with us it doesn't and that many other factors also can introduce a difference in outlook.

I thought it was a valid follow-on point to make rather than reading something into your post that wasn't there.

Well Gerry, marry a foreigner and you have to take whatever comes your way as you have no choice over the matter, as you say, there should not be a problem in Scotland but it could happen anywhere at anytime. It certainly isn't something any of us should dwell on but we have to be aware it can happen.

I take the view that whilst there is always a few nutters bigots etc the rest is down to how you conduct yourself to portray a positive impression in the environment you are in!

Yes, just take it as and when it comes.

One of the things I love, is young kids staring at the missus in for example a shop and the parents getting all embarrassed LOL, the missus always tries to talk to the little kids when this happens just to put them at ease. One of the more amusing points of having a foreign lady.

We have to accept that sometimes Filipinas generate a little interest in one way or another and usually it is positive attention.

The girls are smart, they know what to do in a uncomfortable position more than we do

Can't disagree with any of this Tim - let's hope we don't encounter such problems.

Kris has a 14 year old son and I'm already in touch with our local school about integration matters. Getting positive messages about inclusive / supportive policies / ethos but we all know that doesn't always work in practice.

My own kids went there a few years ago and I'm fairly relaxed about her boy settling in - but will remain alert to potential issues arising.

Broadly agree Matt - but not to the extent of completely turning the other cheek. But sometimes you have to pick your fights / box clever.

G