if youre going to be over there for some time i'm sure you will meet dozens of suitable candidates. take your time--no rush. fill your boots.
Youre out and about now Frank. This is where the adventure starts. 6 months is a great opportunity to meet a nice lady. Relax and enjoy
shema is definatly not my girl friend any more i find out today she is just outside Estancia living with her aunt and her phill boyfriend when she has not got westerners visiting her. So i have been sending money to her so she can take care of him also they both do not have job so how long will he stay now that she has no income from me.You will all probley advise against this but i would just like meet her one more time so i can tell her what i think of her. I so her mum today she acted like she dose not know where she is i played along with it for now. I do not want any one with children because i have had three of my own they are still prblems even when grown so i definatly do not want anyone elses no matter how old they are
There is one thing to be thankful for Frank....It's never too late to know exactly who the real "she" is! So ..Charge it to experience as they say here. If you need help to meet a single lady, well bred , educated and presently has a job with managerial position, but she just turned 50, no child... you can message me.Who knows, this might be a way for you to meet someone...you can openly message me here. I hope you will find someone who will be interested in you, rather than your money! Mr.Nickel would often say..."The past is over and done with . Look to the future now . " Get on with your new experience, forget about her!
Frank - I strongly advise that you DO NOT try to see her. Please remember that you are in a very different culture. "Smooth Inter-Personal Relations" are ESSENTIAL. You are just wanting to have an argument and tell her what you think. That will cause her to lose face. That is dangerous. You are in her country and she has a local boyfriend who is probably younger and fitter than you are and who may feel compelled to attack you., to save his face, because you have damaged his girlfriend's face. DO NOT DO THIS. Just write it off to experience and enjoy yourself.
Please don Please don't try to see her anymore, it is not advisable.Make sure you you are always on the safe side! i agree with Methersgate
Frank I reiterate what Methers et al have said. Do NOT meet her. You will be putting yourself in a very serious situation, especially if the BF gets involved. It's a different world to what you know and you will be exposing yourself to real potential issues
I agre with everyone else here. Do not meet her. No point doing that. It's a waste of time, effort and money.
Wise Up, Frank. Everyone is telling you the same advice here, over and over. Don't see her, getting the last word in is for mugs as there is nothing to be gained and only problems can come your way. Move on.
i have a kid and quiet frankly, now that i have this little human, im very careful about my decisions and with the men i met, and i myself will never date a man who doesnt want a single mom :-D. this is not about us single mothers giving the responsibility to the new guy that the biological father didnt take. it's about who will accept us whole heartily despite the fact that we have a heavy baggage already. ...
i agree completely. lucky for the man that i can trust my feelings with and everything that i have. :-D
I will take all your advise and stay away .. I am to old get into fight with boyfriend. I hope i have not offended any one with what i said about not wanting children that is just me every one is differant,i just dont want that responsibilty any more Thanks for all your advise will keep you posted on any girlfriend update
Reason prevails at last............ Now, the only thing to do, is removing yourself from the immediate area, and do not leave a forwarding address. Oh, incidentally......... make sure you are supa-dupa insured on your motorbike, as you may attract some unwanted attention by chancers...
Good call Frank on staying away, I'm sure you have offended no one regarding not wanting a girlfriend with kids, I certainly wouldn't want a girl with screaming kids either that's for sure, I've been through all that a couple of times with my own and feel I've done my bit , but saying that many people could handle it and in fact love the idea, its just personal choice and preference.
I met a beautiful hard working lady, by mere chance. I went back a few months later, to make sure that we were both on the same level, and we were. The fact that she had a daughter, by a previous relationship didn't enter my mind at all, as I considered it unimportant.. In fact it enhanced my love for her and respected her even more for the sacrifices she was making, workwise, for her family as a whole. The daughter is with us in the UK now, working and leading a fruitful life for herself, as opposed of being on the scrapheap in the tropics, prey to all sort of weirdos. If you love the person you can put up with the baggage. "Baggage" like that can be more respectful and loving than one's own.. As I have experienced. My 2 pence.
