Ahh understood. The financial thing isn't necessarily about him being tight (he might be) but culturally its not something we do and it can take time for some to get used to that. I know your his wife and what I say may sound strange but he needs to accept it.
Something doesn't make sense, if he was that rich then he could have just used £62,500 in savings to meet the financial requirement, that would have meant that he would not have the need to show as much of his financial footprint so to speak. I feel he is hiding something, just my opinion.
Its late here. Others may well respond to your post. I will create a new thread for this later as I think we have hijacked the original posts. Good luck
MuMy We talked almost everyday. There is no communication gap, we have the time. There are issues to him regarding FILIPINO Culture that he does not like. 1. Economy. He says no business opportunity here, he wanted to do business here but the return investment should be like UK, profit should be 10x. Invest 1M today and get back the investment in 6 months 2. People here are very relaxed, drinking, etch. Well, we cant change the culture here, Filipinos drink and smoke 3. Traffic is terrible and this is Philippnes 4.Drugs. my bros is into drugs he hates him to death. 5.Money. Im making my own as Im running our small farm. There are times I have to ask my husband a little allowance. ?sometimes he gives, sometimes not. 6.My family. All of us are professionals. Never did anyone in the family asked money to my husband. Me as a wife, its very seldom I ask for money because he is not a generous type even if he is telling me that is rich.
Well, Halohalo, we have the same reaction.... I love my husband for what he is and who he is. I just cant understand why he did not show substantial amount to the embassy. If he did, then my visa could have been issued in 2 months, way back in March of 2014. Now that he wanted to fight the embassy, it cost him almost 4000 pounds I guess to pay 2 solicitors and thanks God, we won, we won but only, we got a small understanding lately that we need to sort out so I can fly once I got my visa soon.
Maybe he is afraid that once in in UK, I can benefit his treasures, properties or whatever. This is something mysterious to me really. It's no problem with if he will keep what he got to himself. I'm capable to work for sure. Never did I object to him because on the first place, all Will had been done by his solicitor a day before he told me... This is thing that is very concern of.
i cant see how he won in court --under the new rules if his financials didnt add up--or was it an old application under the old rules ?
Let's hope when you get to the UK things are different and your relationship blossoms. Good luck and God bless
Seems to me he's offloading all his stuff, so that you'll own nothing once in the UK. So what if something should happen to him? What happens to you then? You'll be left with nothing. I reckon you should tell him that if he wants to get married to you then he needs to get real and understand that being married makes you family too. Sounds like the guy needs a good slap round the chops to me!
Oh right. And did he transfer this property into his daughter's name after getting married? Because, if it did, it already half belonged to his wife so he's given his daughter something that belonged to her to try and prevent her having it.
HiMari17, Things don't look right. He has hardly visited you and it is inexpensive for a man to travel to the Philippines, especially as he seems to have money. Regarding him not having the right finances for your visa, his accountant can make it look as though he is earning a small amount if he has his own company. A lot of businesses are run this way but it means there will be money that businesses can move around. More importantly, you just have to know that you will be living together when you arrive as you have to feel safe. Presumably he will be buying your plane ticket, will he not be flying over to meet you and fly back to the UK? There seems to be some trust issues if he has put his assets into his daughter's name. That is not normal but it can happen. It seems that money is tight for him as he is not sending you much. Maybe this will be the way it will be. Communication is the key, you need to talk more fully in private. It is not easy at times in lots of marriages and money is the cause of most arguments according to surveys.
From what has been written by the OP, the whole situation stinks to me. Talk about describing two totally incompatible people. Not a good start.
Thanks guys for your advises. I'm here in the UK now. I'm trying my best to learn to drive in the near future, that's the only way I can see myself secure, to have a job of my own. I can't believe that as a wife, I carry no single penny on my wallet and I understand it, I'm jobless here... My husband turned-over all his money to her daughter few weeks before I arrived here and at the moment, we have just started a business hoping we can turn it into a potential income generating one, otherwise, I'm fully dependent on food and clothing, allowance wise... it's none... I'm confused sometimes why husband seems so greedy and only look after the welfare of his only daughter... I think, I'm just a wife, I'm not a blood so I have to help myself while I'm in the UK and it could only be possible after I can drive... Cheers for the kind words. Ma
I'm sorry but you are not 'just' a wife? It seems like he doesn't teat you like you are special? When I first arrived here, my husband gave me a weekly allowance... not that I need it, but because he wanted me to buy what I want as he provided my needs anyway. He is a tight git (my husband) but he does make me feel loved. I don't know you personally but with what I can read here, I do question his 'love' for you. Maybe it's tine for a heart to heart talk.. good luck x
Sounds like he is super cautious. I Don't want to pass judgement there are three sides to every story. Frankly I don't like the way that money always becomes a point of discussion when the Philippines is involved. Perhaps he doesn't fully Trust you. So get a job and prove him wrong. I don't get why you care about receiving money when you're in the process of building a new business and clearly are having your food clothes driving lessons and other needs met. If your husband is much older than you then I would suggest that giving the daughter control is a smart piece of asset protection . Your question about could you arrive in the UK without his interest (at the start) made me feel uneasy. Perhaps I would do the same thing in your husbands position. As I said there are three sides to every story so I don't want to pass judgement. Frankly I think you should get a job and have a talk and get on with life.
