Hi, much thanks for the information about visa validity. I'm expecting my visa anytime soon. But I have a problem.... my hubby and I got s petty misunderstanding and he is mad at me and now he is having a second thought to bring me to UK. My question ks.. can I travel to my husband's place and present myself to UK immigration to register my arrival even if my husband is not interested? Pls help... Mars
I suggest you do something about the petty misunderstanding first What if you turn up in the UK and he wants nothing to do with you? Then you have to find somewhere to stay which would be quite expensive let alone being quite a frightening experience for you. Sort it out first, kiss and make up or stay at home for the time being
Hi and welcome. I hope you can both resolve your issue. If you have the visa you can lawfully enter the UK.
Thank you Timmers, you are right, I have to sort this out, this is just normal to have a misunderstanding and I'm doing my best to send mesages to him and even sms him almost everyday. I have to tell you as well that it's cultural difference is kinda a big challenge for me. All bis property, money, pensions, income, savings were already transferred to hos only daughter just recently. So I'm expecting that his house that I'm going to stay when I arrived there is not his anymore.
Thank you very much, now I started to fell as if I'm having friends and family here in this forum. Mabuhay
Why has he transferred everything to his daughter like that, you don't have to answer if you feel I am being too intrusive.
Well, just few days ago, and he said he will focus on his work and we can only talk once he is done with his activities there and once I sold out the farm that he bought for us including my own condo unit... this may sound strange but I just keep quite on this issue. He loves me hes as we talk almost everyday online. I'm stuck with my visa that take almost 2 years now. So i dont have a job to run the farm using the small allowance he send to me sometimes... and now its where I get my income for food here and he wanted to sell it.
He loves his daughter who has a special needs, now shes 30. He will die for her as he said. ?So all his income, treasure, everything before I arrive to Uk will belong to her daughter. Our joint income once I'm there will belongs to us... this is his arrangement.
It doesn't sound to me that he is a very trusting kind of person, you sound as if you are in a complicated situation, something that I wouldn't like to be in. I like my life and relationships to be plain and simple.
I used to work as an executive. I'm not after my husband's money or property but you are right, to love someone and marry someone is to become one. I'm married to him for 2 years now but I stay in the Phils, he is in Uk. Hopefully I can fly soon. I feel awkward yes, in my situation, I just think of it like blood id thicker than water. I told him that once I'm there, I can work, I'm not a liability anyways. I don't know is this is something to do with culture or just an attitude.
It sounds like you have one or two issues to sort out in your relationship before you come to the UK, this should be one of the best times in your life, you should be looking forward to coming to the UK, there should be no doubts in your mind about your relationship, and there obviously is.
Sounds like the doubts are due to her husbands actions if what Mari is saying is correct. Seems an awful shame for this to be happening now.
Well, yes, maybe there is but I just believe that I can surpass this issue. I'm just thinking that the most important is for my husband to be kind enough to me not to bring agony to my coming to UK. I have no issue to her belongings or treasures, it's his anyway but sometimes once cant avoid looking the motive differently. To his opinion, he wanted to pass all his treasure to his daughter through a Will or Trust to avoid tax...
To be honest, I was shock at the beginning but I just keep this issue to myself, there's no way I can open this up to my family, they will mock me for sure. No way I can open to my friends too as they might laugh or feel pity at me which I don't like to bear the possible comments I would be getting from them. Well, he has solicitors looking after his legal matters. As a wife, I tried to become independent as he seldom send money for my allowance, be always fell me he does not want to be suspected as laundering money to the Philippines, well, I asking you guys if sending 1000 pounds in money laundering? and if UK govt will catch or investigate you? Well I got 200 pounds lately and I'm thankful. My husband is said to be wealthy so he is trying to avoid the tax government catching him laundering money according to him which, to me, nonsense.
The new tax law will be that he doesn't need to pay it if his home is less than a million pounds. Even if he wanted to avoid paying if he was liable for tax he can't just give it all to his daughter in one big lump sum. He would have to pay small amounts over quite a long period I'm led to believe.
Please pray for me guys, I'm new in this forum and I'm happy I can find an outlet to share my issues to you with the hope that we can exchange ideas and we can learn something out of it.
Be strong Mari. I really do hope he realises your worth and relaxes a little. I wish you all the very best.
