He lives on another island some distance away but is getting information about me from a source we are unsure of.
He will have lived on the same island so will have friends there, and people will talk.. Get off to Hong Kong, or somewhere else for some together time and get your mahal to tell everyone it is a trip to another island to visit friends
She said yes, already! In fact she arrived at work one hour early, so we could discuss it on Yahoo! It may not be to Hong Kong, more probably a visit to anther island, and it is subject to her getting time off work and it will only be for one week, so quite an outlay for such a short time. But it is worth it to improve her chances of getting a visa. Luckily, I am self-employed and my work does not commit me to being available at any particular time, and I can go at short notice. I did suggest going during a public holiday but her employers do not recognise public holidays. It has been been 16 months since I saw her, so I expect much of the week may be spent indoors!
Possibly better to meet up in Phill otherwise your mahal will need a passport if she doesn't have one already and then that passport will have a hong kong visa in it which unless she is wealthy or can say work related take some explaining if noticed..
It'll have a Hong Kong stamp certainly but why would she have to show it to anyone? If annulment is in process already the court should already have copies of documents like this? The flight to Hong Kong can be very cheap, it's accommodation that's more expensive and she would have to have enough spending money to prove she could manage the holiday but none of that ever needs to be seen outside the confines of NAIA airport. Apart from that it is just a few stamps in a passport.
It is always with great difficulty, but giving each other the benefit of the doubt. Something I needed as a sensitive guy was a principle like the following: Unless there is a legitimate reason to feel hurt by something that appears on the surface to be a slight or offence, do not take it, as it wasn't meant that way. Rather, ask! That saved a lot of poo in our relationship.
