I wanted to share this with you. Hope its ok

Hi Yes I dealt with them all but 2 weeks before she left she had an assessment and they felt she was ok...Anyone can act out being ok But I feel maybe I just leave it alone now... Its sad that I'll probably never see her again and that if she had just give it chance , Things could of been resolved.. I fear though she didn't want them resolved by being with me. She as ran from it thinking its the answer. I also fear that in time she will find it wasn't the answer and she will crash again and that will be far worse than the first....I was in contact with her brother on facebook and he now as closed down on me and yet all I have asked is ..Has he made contact and is he satisfied she is safe and well. That would give me some closure. I don't understand the mentality of any of it... Being a different culture shouldn't make a difference. we are all the same in thinking when a loved one passes.

As you mentioned, best to leave it alone and plan for the next phase in your life.
Maybe one day she will contact you but it doesn't look good at the moment

It is strange for me to read this story as I believe Filipina wives are so faithful and caring.

I'm confuse becoz i can't believe that the death of her sister will affect her badly to the extent that her marriage is "totally affected".That's just sound so obscure to me and her brother has closed down to you also?
Maybe you are right, just leave her alone.She choose that path, so she knows what could be the consequences.

In my opinion, Filipinas are the most caring and loving wives, as far as i know.All we need is love us so dearly... give us 100% and we give 1000 %........ but could be fierce if mishandled lol. just kidding .
Seriously, there could be other reasons, i suspect.

That is a very good post, Nickel

I thought that perhaps it was a combination of three things:

1) Isolated on the Isle of Wight from other Filipinas
2) Bringing up someone else's children and wanting her own kids
3) Falling out of love with her husband

Any one of the above could be a relationship breaker.

Hi Nickel and aposhark.
I tried my best with Mary mixing with the 200 Filipinos on the island. She kept saying she didn't want too, Ide had a vasectomy before Mary and she ask me for baby so I went to Nottingham and paid £3,000 to reverse it 6 months before she left and the 3rd well the day before she left we was dancing and she said to me, Damieon , you will never leave me will you. I said Mary I spent 2 years fighting to get you her,,£22,000 in Costs. I love you and if you can be patient then soon we can have a baby. The next day she is gone. Anyway still no news and Ive decided to leave it alone.
Can not fix what dosent want to be fixed. can not find what dosent want to be found and that's Mary.
I love her dearly, I miss her but Ive lost too much weight in worry and made myself ill. My business as suffered for 6 weeks now so going to try get back into work on Monday. My children seem lot better too, Better than me. Im takeing them to my house in Spain for Christmas to get away from home for little while. Thanks everyone for your support

Have a good time in Spain with your children.
Que tengas un buen vacaciones allí

ive only just found this thread.

i too live on the i o wight--not far from ventnor--and know full well how different the place can be to anyone new to the place.

if you feel it could help you--i'd be happy to meet --for a beer or whatever.

hmmmm