I have many concerns unfortunately

This will probably be long, I'm sorry

I finally met a wonderful lady on filipino cupid and we moved our chat to WhatsApp very quickly. She leads a very simple life and only makes 500 pesos a day. She will get no pension at retirement age because she has never been employed.

We chat for many hours, day and night everyday. Yes, I've fallen in love with her deeply. But have a few concerns. I have a high IQ and have worked in IT all my life. I was looking at her Facebook profile check-ins and noticed that it said she has checked in at Saudi Arabia in June 23. She also has some other countries listed in the past. My first question about this was have you ever been on holiday, to which she replied no. I asked her how come you Facebook profile check-ins says you've been to these places and showed her a screenshot and explained that it gets the locations from your phones GPS. She told me that she didn't know that place.

I'm concerned that she may be lying even though she said she isn't. We have video called, so I have seen her house. It is very simple and small and need of improvement, which doesn't bother me.

I plan to fly there in a few months and will probably ask her to marry me. I'm going to learn to ask her in filipino.

Your thought on this please
Mark

hi--welcome to the site. our man Oss is into IT--he might be able to confirm your concerns about saudi arabia.

Do you really know anything about the lady?

Do you really know anything about the lady?[/QUOTE]
I suppose not a lot really, but i will find out more about her in the months to come. I worked in IT for 30 years in various technical roles and understand things about technology very well

I've been thinking about what I know about her. I've met a lot of her family via video call as I think she wanted to me to meet them and maybe show her family who I was. We've talked about many things, whether they are important or not I don't know. She's been single for 22 years and it was her friend who got her to join filipino cupid, for which I'm thankful. She gave me her address and I've sent her some flowers. I also posted something from the uk that is very personal to me. She told me wow and that she hasn't ever received a gift before in get life which made me sad and gave me some disbelief as she has been married before. She has 2 grown up children and the youngest is a son who is 27 and at college. Her eldest child, a daughter, is married. She lives alone and has a small business selling food from her home. I suppose I do know quite a lot about her really. The relationship is still young, but I want more

well the only way to find out is to get on a flight over there and see how you feel after a few weeks in her company.

You're very right there. Some things can only be said face to face to see the facial reactions that reveal the truth.

As I plan to ask her to marry me, I was also wondering if it would be better to buy the engagement ring in the uk or the philippines

From your posts, I'm beginning to have concerns about your good self, sir ...but keep em coming.

Please explain. At least I know her address is correct. She sent me a picture of the flowers I had delivered

Hi and welcome,

Not unusual for Filipino's working in Saudi or anywhere else to give their phones to friends family or sell it when they go home...

BTW I'm in Leyte, P500/day ...P15k/month is ok... if she's in the provinces... professionals police etc P60k/month up ...

at the risk of maybe replying to Mr Ash or Boots--i will offer some questions you need answers to.

Where is her husband ?
Her son--at college--at 27 ? Who supports him?
If she earns 500pp a day--thats about the average wage for manual labourers isnt it ?

Why would you ask her to marry you if you aren't sure about her yet? Get to know her properly, surely, before taking such a step.

These 'LDRs' are such fun though:
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I'll explain a bit more. She divorced 22 years ago, I have no idea where her husband is. Her son, who is at college, supports himself by having a job. It maybe a fair few months before we meet as I have a lot to sort out. As for the picture PhillPensioner, it did make me laugh, but we have video called a lot and she looks exactly like her Facebook profile and filipino cupid pictures.
One final thing, love is based on trust and faith. I have much faith in what she has said and my trust is building in her a lot

where did she divorce him ? has she got any paperwork proof of this ?

Actually sounds reasonably plausible to me obviously you need to be careful and assess the situation once you get there ... she doesn't appear to be fishing for the big one... but you never really know until you get your boots on the ground... could be she is fine but her family's not etc.

The other thing is... sometimes you have to take what the Filipino says with a pinch of salt ... saying she divorced 22 years ago ... for example... unless she was in another country it's not going to have happened that way... she could mean she separated 22 years ago and hasn't seen him since... she could mean she annulled the marriage a long time ago... unlikely coz very expensive... she might even mean they never married but they had a child and then separated lol!

Seriously, there are some interesting language hurdles you'll need to get used to... she might not even be lying about it... just what she understands by divorce and you and most other foreigners understand by divorce probably not quite the same thing

One way to approach this is to leave your capital at home and spend your income... then you'll not really have lost too much if it goes tits up.

Yes I agree, have spoken to her about her wifi and I don't think she understands what it is at all. She IS still married and as you said, it is very expensive to get the marriage annulled there. Which is a bit of a problem as I'm worried that if I were to move there, what sort of visa would I need to live there permanently.

Yes I'd only take a small amount of actual money with me and leave the rest in the bank. Why does love gave to be so complicated by obstacles

yep--i was expecting that. If you do decide to go ahead and move there you need to be fully aware of the LAW concerning co habitation, also-if / when the husband does find out you could be in for a very expensive time.

Do your homework !

Bear in mind that if she's still married (no divorce in the Phils), then if you do any naughty stuff, she can be had for Adultery, and you for 'Concubinage'. This is NOT the UK.