Should Filipino Mothers leave their family (kids) to work abroad

Thank you

Let's all count our blessings... and not judge those who weren't born into such (by comparison) privileged circumstances as I'm sure most of us were.

Added to that... Filipino traditions, family life, and psyche are totally different to here in the UK.

Theres lots off countries where this happens, closer to home it happened in Ireland and possibly still does.

I really don't see the point of this "poll". It is not our place to pass judgment on OFW's of another country, whose culture and family values may be quite different to what we are used to.

Until I was 17, my dad was in the Royal Navy... away for months at a time.

Is this any different ?

Didn't do me and my siblings any harm... other than perhaps make us more independent and responsible.

It is no different but I do wonder why the OP feels he needs to ask such questions as this and "What do British husbands really want from their Filipino wives" among a stream of others.

Without of course knowing your family circumstances I expect there may well be a difference - poverty.

Does anyone really think that - given the choice - a Filipina mother with, perhaps three children, would choose to leave her kids with a relative to go to the Middle East to clean rooms for a fraction of the salary of her employer - but still earning considerably more than she could back home.

Of course not - I would think that in 99.9% of cases she would rather be at home - involved in the bringing-up and development of her children, and working locally.

The situation needs no poll to arrive at the plain simple fact....two words suffice.

Economic necessity.

A lot of them from where I live do it to get out of their marriage - in fact one of our neighbours is busting her gut trying to get a job in the ME at the moment so she can hook up with some arab guy she's found on fb...

Lot's of them leave their kids to work in Manilla...

Bit of a silly question really because whilst most of us would think it's all for economic reasons it often isn't.

Also you can have a husband/wife that spends their life at the office/work place (normal for UK?)... what's the difference?

Well, I had already assumed that anyone with a brain larger than a peanut would have taken that (poverty) as read.

Now you can go back on ignore.

You really are a thoroughly unpleasant man aren't you? Perhaps missing key people in your life at a critical point in your development deprived you of good manners and a sense of empathy.

You left this site and whilst your knowledge of life in the Philippines would have been missed by many I feel the place was more civilised after you had flounced back to the other forum.

I'm really glad I'll never meet your acquaintance - whereas there are many good folk on here I'd very happily share a jar or two.

And your own family history is not analogous to the millions of OFWs.

Hi John....I can't argue with what you say but I stand by the general thrust of my post -- the vast, vast, majority of OFWs - would prefer to raise their kids themselves if social and economic circumstances allowed.

G

Don't disagree! However it is commonplace across the world for people to look to migrate to where there is a chance to improve their economic prospects. You only have to historically look at those who chose to go to the Americas to seek potential fame and fortune or/and the Brits who plyed their trade in mainland Europe in the 70s.
It's all about demand,otherwise you could argue why the Filipino male does not leave the home in similar numbers as the female to provide for his family.
Supply and demand,every situation has it's own reason there is no right or wrong reason for it. The choice may be forced upon the family,They may choose to do what they believe is best for them.

What are you trying to achieve or understand from this poll? Are you married to a Filipino? Have you discussed the topic with other Filipino s face to face?

I think it’s a fair question to ask and from the responses here very educational - my British friends in the main have indicated that any mother who leaves her kids is out of order .

Obviously things are different there - but I am aware of Filipinos who are married to British who have left everything for their ‘ new man’ and according to my wife (a Filipino) the husband is seen as king.

I wish somebody would tell my Mrs that.

Oh I forgot to add - as long as he brings home the bacon ...

Isnt that a mans role anyway, just as equally as a woman working, assuming that’s what the couple want.

I don't think there is any short answer to this to be honest .
I'm sure many of ofw would rather not be working abroad and separated from their families and children , although others will probably choose yo for their own reasons .

What we can't do , is try to align the English ways of life and thinking , with Filipinos ways . The mindset is very very different from my ( maybe limited ) experience there .


If there is no work available because of their age discrimination, and amount of applicants for each vacancy , plus most jobs are notoriously low paid , you would have to ask what is the alternative ?