I know a lot of you guys are passed those initial stages of Yahoo Messenger conversations and the highs and lows of long distance relationship. So a question for you guys is this: How did you keep your long distant relationship alive and prospering?
as long as i remember a bit of dirty talk give spices in a relationship aside from seriousness stuff we usully talk.. hehehe... btw its only my opinion am sure to lots there are different way
hmm.... as for me, I always send him off line messages, text messages or even sends him an email. Any medium to let him know that he is constantly on my mind and to let him know that he important and loved. My bf do the same thing but its the voicemail that I like best. He always sends me voice messages (because he knows that I love his voice and accent )... we laugh a lot when we chat/talk, its like we always have something funny to say so our conversations are never a bore. He sometimes sings to me as well. He has a good singing voice. But of course our relationship is not all fun there are serious times as well and thats the best time to listen to each other. So I think constant communication, getting a good laugh on corny and sometimes naughty jokes makes an ldr alive. And let me add, you yourself should be interesting and be interested in everything and anything about your partner
well, same as yuna's... but it's more of me doing the texting.. simon is not the texting and calling type of person mainly because it is costly for him.. so i do the calling and texting... and yes, laughter was the main ingredient... we have the same humour i guess and that helped a lot.. as well as discussing various subjects.. looking back, after simon's second visit we didn't chat as often as before but still continously email each other.. we continued to do the same things and live our life as separate individuals, unlike other LDR couples who spend every day online... we don't do that and i think the saying "absence make the heart grow fonder" worked well with us... i guess probably because we are both scorpios and we like our independence... when the chatting time became less (say once or twice a week and emails every other day), we had more things to talk about when we get online and we spend hours just catching up to do... there were also times that we don't have anything to say.. so we resorted to playing billiard online.. or hangman... LOL.. it was fun... and we share music online as well.. and that's where sharing our life stories also happen... and there are also times when we are just online and we each watch our own shows.. simon watching football, and me watching my telenovelas... hehehe...
It is interesting to read what others do. With Rizza, we only get to meet online a few days a week, perhaps just two and that is because of our work commitments and the time difference between the UK and Pinas. Though we text every day and also message through facebook and what not. And like you Florge we have spent hours swapping YouTube videos and similar stuff, just laughing at nothing in particular. Although not played games online with her yet Also, not been too doing the dirty talk yet. I often call her sexy and joke about her sending me pictures of herself in a bikini, though that is all aimed at raising a smile and a laugh
we all got different stories what matter most is both happy, satisfied and trust each othere no matter what
you can do the dirty talk as long as your partner is also happy about that Kuya ..hehehe..but personally i can attest it add spices on relationship..weather we accept it or not every indivividual has that naughty and serious sides it all depends to whom you gonna decide to spend with really
There isn't much to add to what other have already said, and every one's experience in LDR will be very different, as the only thing in common really would be the fact that one is over here and the other one in Philly................ It was slightly more difficult at first, as Jet was working full time, and although she had a the company pc at disposal in the office, it was a bit of hit and miss with the chatting at times, only because of time differences. Fortunately for me, her office job got done away with and communication became easier, but still with some difficulties, due to my work commitment and time differences. but I must admit that after a quick phone call "online na?", she ran to the nearest cafe and fought her way to a seat in front of a monitor and keyboard... Things became a doddle on my second trip, as I decided that she should have her own pc, but I was damned if I was going to be ripped off in Philly for one. So I got online to Maplin website and got one of those "barebones" pc's, fitted it out with whatever was missing and needed, and fetched it along to meet the new owner... After that, it was communication full time, and after 4 years, the thing is still in use today by the family. We used to chat about everything and sundry. I sort of prepared her to what kind of weather and life, she would find here, in case she wanted to move, and i suppose that helped her a lot in not feeling homesick as much as others were. Topic of conversation, never strayed to sex as far as I can remember... sorry if we are boring... But where I come from, we tend to do things like that, and not jus talk about it....
Talking by SMS and YM plus skype near the end (this was 5 years ago) Also lots of Emails and offlines when the other was off. Back then it was a bit harder as especially for the Wife in phill there was no real mobile method of using YM so SMS's sent when away from a PC had to be well crafted and care taken to make the most of the SMS. Also very important with LDR is to make sure both parties understand one another well. If there is a misunderstanding or one or both are tired it can be a big problem with the relationship. Never ever go to bed on a arugment is very true when there is no way to pop round or easily ring up/text etc. If your sleepy or feeling ill and therefore a little confused and possibly not aware what your writing. It maybe better if no major issues to simply have an early night or a quick snooze. Very hard when the other is staying up specially or waking up early. But from ours and others experience very important to follow this rule. When one or the other of you is tired but wants to stay awake and together. Let the other do more talking if you can come to an understanding. Let the other recounts tales from there past or about the local area or their family and friends. Useful for you both as a couple and of course for the Interviews you may encounter at the CFO or Embassy. Also worth Practising both English and Phill Phrases if the phill is prepared to suffer your early attempts its amazing how much Tagalog u can speak which will help a lot. With regards Bedroom talk be very careful both parties are happy with and I would advise caution with what u get up to especially before you meet and really bond. Plus with Naughty talk remember no means no if the other party is not happy with wheter just at the present time or fullstop dont push the issue.. Phills especially have very strong sense of morals and of course many are regular Churchgoers. The most important rule is make sure you both get out and do things. Most Phills have so much going on around them socially its not so hard but with Brits very easy to go to work come home login go to sleep etc.. Go out take pictures of social events you attend even if just a small family get together so those people familair to the mahal. Taking pictures with the camera phone is not hard nnow take pictures of things we take for granted the shopping mall be careful you dont aattract securities attention Makes tales of your day become a live to the other when they see or have seen pictures of the place so can bulid a accurate picture in their mind
Yay!! I love this topic!! Well for me and for my fiance. Well its really more of communicating to each other nonstop. We just love to hear each others voice. I guess its because we are both pieces in signs we always wanted to be romantic and cheesy! wahahahaha we also make it a point to chat everyday before he starts to work as his work starts at night and mind ends in the afternoon which is a good schedule to both of us. Like everyone here, we talk about anything and everything under the sun. Exchange of movies, songs, jokes, play games in facebook by the way he sometimes uses my facebook account to sort out my frontier ville hahaha we both love to play games over facebook i let him meet my pinoy friends in facebook and chat with them while im not still online and when im on he starts to share to me the things they have chitchat about something for us to talk about we always make it a point to go on webcam or cam to cam and mic to mic conversation as i always laugh seeing his childish attitude so does he...as for my part i try to send him international mail every two weeks and i always make it a point to add something special on it like a cloth with my perfume spray on it wrapped on a plastic to preserve its scent, photo mosaic that ive created, compilations of the movies he like and so much more to come. but for his side grr hate the fact that i dont receive his post maybe our mail in the city is kinda ****ty grrrr but i still look forward to that one thing we always do is show each other how we dress when there are times we have occasions to attend. so its like a fashion show to us both at least we could see how both of us dress. there's a lot more things to do just as long you constantly show how much you love your wife or your husband that is what matters most in any kind of relationship.
and we all do know is everyone are unique on how they act,do and think what matter are we love each other and respect what we believe
I would never have went to bed (no matter HOW TIRED) before I would send an email to her. Then, I would read her email the next day. Then, we went on Yahoo Messenger EVERY DAY. Before I knew about the YM functionality to call, I had many sim cards O2 (your country) which allow you free minutes to call abroad for each top up. I spent about £120 most weeks on that. The truth is, it can get stale, because of the waiting, and waiting and waiting. You just gotta have the constant communication to keep it strong even if it isn't always as interesting as it was at the start Thanks, Tom
