My GF just suddenly seemed to cut me off!!?

I have been dating this girl for around two months, she is a Filipina. I usually saw her about once a week, as she works some very unsociable hours. When we were together, everything seems fine, we were getting closer and always seemed to enjoy each others company. It got to a point where when she came over, she would wear one of my tops around the house and wear my flip flops, which i thought was kind of cute.

When we first started dating she complained that i didnt text her enough (about every couple of days or so) so i started texting here everyday, she seemed to like this. Then after a couple of weeks of that she stopped replying to my good morning texts, and we chatted via text in the evenings. We used to text about a few different things, some just how are you doing texts etc, and the occasional flirty ones etc.

But one thing that used to drive me crazy, is that i would only usually see her on very short notice due to her work schedule, we talked about going away for the weekend, but couldnt plan this as she couldnt commit to a weekend that was free right now.

So everything was moving along slowly but surely, last week i saw her twice and again we had a nice time together. The last time i saw her was Tues of last week, and she said she would be free last Sunday so i would see her then. So on the Sat i texted her to see how she was doing, and she said not good as very tired from working long days. On the Sunday morning she cancelled (in a pleasant way) saying she just needed to go home to rest. I texted her a couple of times later on the Sunday and she replied.

On the Monday, i texted her around lunchtime and she replied as normal. I replied back saying let me know when you are free next to meet up and she didnt reply. I texted her in the evening with a casual how was your day etc, no reply. I waited about an hour and asked her what was on her mind...no reply!

So, the following day (tues gone) i texted her late afternoon, just casually asking her if she was having a good day and again no reply!! I tried calling here twice that evening and she didnt pick up (but she could have been working!) so i texted her finally asking here if anything was wrong, but again nothing!!

I have not texted her at all since (which is today) and have not heard anything off her!! ...i am worried about pushing her away further. She had said before, that it takes her time to open up as she didnt want to get hurt again, i believe i have always treated her well and respected her wishes for me to be understanding about her situation.

Im completely confused as to what happened here, but what should i do next? i dont want to seem too clingy, but i do care about her very much, i know she has been under a lot of pressure recently, so maybe thinking she just wanted some space, so am trying to give her that.

What should i do now? should i wait a day or two and send her a freindly text, or what? Please help, i havent slept properly the last couple of days wondering what happened and what i should do next! I know some will say, just cut her loose, but i do like her a lot and felt it might develop further over time, so reluctant to just do this. We were having a conversation a few weeks back about things and she said that if she got fed up with me she would tell me, but she has not done this!

Easier said than done eh, if you develop feelings for someone.

Did you do anything to upset her?

Not that i can think of! ...i read back over the texts i sent but, cant seem to see anything, but who knows i guess!

I cant think of what might have happened to have caused this Tampo, but i guess all i can do is keep trying to get her to open up.

Should i give her a cooling off period? ...how log should i give her before getting back in touch?

hi there.. do u guys use fb?? u will know more about her by seeing some pictures of her with friends and family??

I see what you are saying, but i dont use it.

A tactical tampo? ...you mean i might not have even done anything? ...why would she do this?

Are you able to rule out another fella in the mix there?

My thoughts exactly; if it's not a "tampo", it's another bloke - maybe a longstanding boyfriend or husband has shown up after an absence.

Mapriljane's comment on Facebook and its uses is on the money.

To be honest I can't entirely rule that out! ...it seems the only logical explanation to me also if I am being honest with myself, otherwise she would have been in touch i would think.

Is she still alive ?
Forgive me but you haven't had a reply from her for a couple of days which has somewhat surprised you. Would it not be a good idea then to establish firstly that nothing has happened to her.

This is the most likely answer. She has either met someone else, possibly through her work, or has existing commitments back home - such Filipinas would describe their marital status as "it's complicated".

If you know where she works or her home address then find out for yourself if shes ok. Then if you see her ask her personally, WHY.

Ok everyone, there is an update! ...well, she is talking to me again now! ...turns out it was more than just a 'Tampo' ...she was unhappy as she felt i was just after one thing (you know what!) i was frustrated and upset when she told me as nothing could have been further than the truth! ...i really care about this girl! But now we talked, i can kinda understand why she might have thought that.

So now i have to somehow convince her that this is not the case, and that i do really care about her and want to make her happy! ...i dont think it is going to be easy, but she is definitely worth it!

Good news!

Well, not quite, says she cannot see me for the next two weeks due to work commitments!