Filipino tradition of courting vs european man

I met a fantastic women online. She is filipina, I'm polish. My biggest challenge is still to arrive. Once I am in Manila i will have to take a challenge of courting a girl and her family. Yes, I do admire her, she is adorable and I am ready to do it. I would like to ask for an advice all the filipinos here on forum. I have read about courting a girl and her family but I am not familiar with it? No all steps will work (eg going out with mutual friends as I will be there alone, no serenades - my voice is far from good). Any tips, advices? I am there for 2-3 weeks every 6 or more months so I will have to speed up things What should I give to her family? Any dos and donts? Thank you very much in advancd for all replies...

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Thank you for your replay. It looks like I will have to stay in the hotel.. Actually she asked me whether my filipino friends I work with have ever mention courting. I googled it and looked kinda *scary*...
She is from Manila. And yes, we are catholics. I met her on one of the dating websites last week.
I read an article in your link. Having a company is a nice idea. It's so cool that I am getting on very well with all of my filipino friends that I am looking forward to seeing her "bodyguard"
These are plans yet but we are honest to each other that if everything continues as it is I will not hesitate of going to Manila.

Hi ad4ms3,

Welcome.

Just a word of caution. Please be careful and try to get to know your girlfriend well first.
You have only just met her on a dating website and you don't really know anything about her yet.

Try to talk with her over a webcam and be sure she is who she says she is.

It is common for Filipino men to post pretty photos of girls as themselves !
In fact I have seen them having multiple chat boxes going at the same time

Do not send any money to her until you have known her for quite a while. If she asks you for money because of a "family problem" don't do it. The nice Filipinas would never ask for money in this way.

There are thousands of stories of men who have been tricked or "scammed".

Be careful and take your time.

Best of luck and ask questions here. Many of us have been to the Philippines many times and know some of the problems that can arise.

A true Filipina makes a wonderful wife and mother, but there are many poor people who are skilled at getting money from (mostly) Western men.

Thank you very much for all your advices
I don't use facebook and don't want to. I'm tired of it - we all are surrounded by it
She described her family as middle classed. They aren't rich yet no poor. Her and her father were very active and helpful towards poor people affected by last flooding in Philippines.
I was asked whether I would go there even for couple of days just to meet her. Feels like she is interested as well but again my decision will have to be wise.
On a very beginning she was told that I have no money. I am living an ordinary life. She accepted it.
I will follow all your advices, thanks for the support
What should be the first thing to do when I see her on the airport? She might be there alone. I don't want to burn everything and my concerns are culture, tradition differences.

Hi again,
Be prepared for her to be accompanied by many family members.
She definitely will not be alone and if you go for a meal, you will be expected to pay for her family members!
Even though you have told her you are not rich, Filipinos will still see you as being rich compared to them.
This is one of the downsides of having a Filipina girlfriend, although when you get to know her, and if she is as decent as you say, you will see a Filipinas many beautiful ways.

I would be very surprised if there was any activity in the bedroom. If she has any hopes for the future with you, she will ensure that you have the right respectful attitude to her. The Philippines is nowhere near as liberated as Poland or any other Western country, so be prepared to wait for physical contact. In fact, she will not show any PDA (public displays of affection) and this will make you worry. Patience is the name of the game, especially if she is from the province, i.e. not a city girl.

Take your time when you arrive, but once again I urge you to slow down your horses and get to know her for a while first before you visit. If you cannot do this, just enjoy her friendship and enjoy the marvellous ways of the Filipino people. They are very unique and emotional as a generalisation

There is absolutely no way of going there without knowing her first. It was just a chit-chat about me going there this summer for few days. I don't know yet whether I will be able to afford it in the first place. I take all your advices seriously.
Assuming I'm going there for 3 weeks. How much money in pounds would I roughly need (going out, seeing the country, restaurants, hotel)?

Its a long way to go for a date and your a long way off knowing this lady ,if you do decide to go to the Fils you would do well to connect to the expats living there as they will know the nice ladies through theit
r wives fami9lies , the net is a bit of a lottery and it took me six months on line and 3 months living with my girlfriend to find out who she was the first time.

Remember if you do find the one then the expense will be large but if you do it right the rewards are big to my darling wife has been worth going broke for, oh one further thing an orphan would be worth her wieght in gold lol

Yeah, I know its a gamble.
The more we chat the more I am convinced I made a good shot On Sunday we'll see each other for the first time through webcame.
As much as we chat she is really family orientated.. anyway, we'll see how things go on sunday... thank you all for replies and advices....

Welcom to the forum ad4ms3.

I think my experience of courting a Filipina is somewhat different to the norm, breaking every rule in the book and violating accepted Catholic customs. But my loved one does not adhere to the Catholic faith, both of us are really agnostic though I don't think she is familiar with that term.

We met on-line and, in person, 7 months later. I did not meet her family or friends for a few days and we shared a hotel room from the night we met. I did meet her family of course and neighbours, friends, romans, countryman... In fact, there was a very big street party, mainly in my honour (I think).

That was the only time my loved one has ever asked for money - to pay for that party and a night out with friends a few days later! Most of the time she feels shame because I send her money, but she works off her little cotton socks to earn money - 10-12 hours/day, 7 days a week.

I hope you can take time to read all the stories on here - they will surely open your eyes!