I do not know how am i going to start it as the issue is too complicated but i will try to get it to the point,my husband is having an affair with another woman and he left me pregnant and broke as i put all my money on his newly made office,first im scared to post it here but everyone seems to be so nice and i feel like i can find a newly family here,so they r now living together with his woman there in uk,and his new woman do message me at first we were fighting pointing the mistake on me,i do cooked for my husband i do clean our room,i prepare his bath and his clothes to wear,our relationship seems to be so perfect before i dont know what happen..i kept asking my self what i have done wrong but really and seriously i couldnt find any answer when i tried to get an answer from him all he can say is its just that feelings has changed which is really unacceptable.for me as we are married,i have waited for so long that we can stay here in the phil together as thats the plan and this baby i am carrying at the moment has been planned,but the worst thing is i dont understand why he is making things harder for me while im carrying his child his own blood and flesh,and i needed to deal with his new woman as he follows everything what this woman says as when i tried to get my allowance and talk about a bit of consideration regarding supporting me untill i can gave birth just untill i gave birth but he doesnt even want to listen and needed to discuss it first with the woman..i wont post here if this isnt too much heavy for me but i am nearly getting depressed on what was happening i have tried to stay strong for my fMily as i dont want them to worry too much as my mother were crying when i was at the level of crying and not wanting to eat as i dont know what was happening to the family that we were trying to build
And for the record im not into his money,as i never ask how much money he has or what was his bank details or whatsoever,recently this new woman and i had a fights of blaming me into something i couldnt understand what was the big deal of it and shes calling me hypocrite,stupid,bitch and some below the belt words and i couldnt tolerate it anymore as far as i know im still the legal wife and making funny of it bcos yes i was the legal wife and yet the man i chosen to marry was there living with her and she even told me that she has everything so she pitty me as she said i was left pregnant and broke and honestly when i told my husband about it he just said to understand it as she is mad at the moment,understand her?when they couldnt understand my situation??i dont get it at all
Hi @Wifey , I have gone through the same thing. Got prego, abandoned, depressed, but here I am still. Made it alive, and happier than before and I'm sure you will too. You are the legal wife, you can file charges and get the support your child deserves. Seek for legal advice. Most of all, stay strong not just for yourself but also for the little one. Sadly, I can't tell what's best for you to do coz in my experience, I let go of toxic people, moved on and did everything independently. Since you said you were broke, I think you should really seek for the support. Were you to married here or in UK?
We were married here in the phil and u know what was hurtful more is when he came home by february and told me he needed to go back in uk for a month to meet a big client but infortunately it was the meeting to this woman
We were married here in the phil and u know what was hurtful more is when he came home by february and told me he needed to go back in uk for a month to meet a big client but infortunately it was the meeting to this woman
I'm sorry for your situation. Perhaps you can save your marriage. If you are really unable to do that, then it will be a lot easier for you if you manage to get your British Husband to file for divorce in the UK. Once that is all done, at least you can then get your marriage dissolved in the Philippines because the Philippines will recognize a UK divorce so long as your husband filed for it. I would advise you get that done first. The UK divorce should address issues of child support, and since it will be a UK court order, can easily then be enforced. Until you are divorced, or proceedings have been started, you are unable to address any matters of child support.
Hi maam thank u for a response,i dont think we can still fixed it as i have tried so hard to do it but he doesnt want to besides he made this new woman pregnant also i am just ahead one month he came home february and went back march and all the family thought it was for a business matter but it doesnt seem like that,plus he said he will do divorce after 2 years..
I see. What a strange set of circumstances. You clearly got involved with an unscrupulous person. Although you could involve an attorney in the Philippines and push for child support on the basis that you are separated, you will have problems with this. Firstly, you will have to obtain a Philippine court order, Then you will have to obtain a further order under REMO (Reciprocal enforcement of Maintenance obligation) to force the UK payor to pay the maintenance. I am slso unsure whether the UK court will recognize the order under REMO on the basis that you are still married. Therefore this will be expensive and time consuming. It will likely also annoy your husband who may be then less likely to cooperate with you on the matter of the divorce - which you will need him to file, in order to then allow you to remarry in time. I would suggest that you attempt to get your husband to voluntarily financially help you out with the child support over the next 2 years until he files for the divorce.
I have tried so much maam really i even begged for it as theres nothing left to my savings i even says just atleast a few more months and then after he doesnt have to give anything as im going to find a job to raise my baby and my older daughter,but everytime i do so he always says i have to discuss it first to my partner which annoy me too much and since he wouldnt cooperate i would have to message the woman to give a little bit of consideration but they r too abussive making fun of every little thing i do to live..i do not know why those kind of person do exist.,i guess the only choice i can do is not to communicate with them anymore
You shouldn't have to communicate with the other woman. I would make every effort to keep communication open with your husband.
I didn't message her maam she did,she took my number on my husband's phone saying things to me and my only choice to sat down and cry,i even told this woman that i was avoiding talking to her but she threatens me to make my life even more harder as she determines all the things that goes to us
I didn't message her maam she did,she took my number on my husband's phone saying things to me and my only choice to sat down and cry,i even told this woman that i was avoiding talking to her but she threatens me to make my life even more harder as she determines all the things that goes to us,i have tried so hard to deal with my husband i have adjusted so much for them but then sometimes he doesnt want to talk to me
I'm sorry for your situation. Hard for me to say anything productive apart from what I've said already. Perhaps some other members have some input...
I wonder what his reason is for delaying the divorce for 2 years other than being a vindictive man? Sad situation indeed.
Because a 2 year separation is the only way of obtaining effective no fault divorce in English law at this time.
He says to me that he needed to wait for 2 years as thats the process i so not know what law is there in uk but i said i want a divorce but he said he can do it if he will say i was the one who cheated,am i the one who cheated?how can i accept that if i was left pregnant by his child and they were saying they r going to do a dna test i told him he can do as many as he wants as i never ever did anything that will ruin a family im not perfect but i tried so hard to be as kind as i can and be a good wife and faithful to him god knows that so i dont know what was the reson for him to delayed the divorce bcos he doesnt want to admit that he cheated perhaps
So he was lying when he said it was the normal process as he cant say that i was then one who had a mistake and doesnt want also to admit that,i married a monster i guess
2 years is the normal process. After that he can divorce you without a reason. You can divorce him for adultry or unreasonable behaviour before that, but it seems it is better for him to divorce you due the the annulment rules. You could agree to getting him to divorce you for unreasonable behaviour, but you would have to agree to 5 examples that he gives of how you have behaved unreasonably. Without doing that, 2 years is the normal time that you have to wait before you can divorce without giving reason.
He is correct. Unless you are prepared to take blame you must wait 2 years for him to divorce you. He is not saying you are at fault. This is the normal legal processs.
