The subject matter (age etc.) of this thread is a non-starter IMO. People can preoccupy themselves with things that are of no real consequence.
On a point of information, in the Philippines a karaoke bar can be a perfectly innocent and respectable establishment. Some are, some aren't. A "KTV-Disco" on the other hand probably isn't!
I'm 53 and my wife to be is 25...it works, we're both happy, i was not desperate and she or her family don't want my money. If anyone does't approve...tough!!!!
People spend far too much time worrying/thinking about what others may or may not think. Live and let live. My wife is 4/5 years older than me. I met her through an on-line game - she likes gaming, I like gaming - we are both nerds and/or geeks. She is Filipino, she was living in Spain at the time. We chatted a long long time, I think we actually met about 18 months after we first bumped into each other. Back then, I remember a work colleague met a girl through internet dating, and he was getting a lot of stick for that. Now, internet dating is seen as being acceptable. Oddly, though, if that internet date happens to come from the other side of the world, and has a different skin colour - then it is acceptable for friends, strangers and anyone else to say "How much did she cost you?" and other such hurtful remarks. I am not really bothered by what other people think, but when friends I respected accused my wife of just wanting me for my money, it impacted me really hard. If I dated a white girl from Bristol or Cardiff or Swansea, no-one would question her intentions at all. No-one questions why the rich guy at the end of the street who looks like he's been hit by a bus several times has a very attractive wife. So, why are people questioning me, with average looks, with an average looking wife, purely because she has come from a place poorer than the place we live in? It's not nice, right? And BrummieBen, you've experienced the labelling yourself. But, it seems, whilst not liking to be judged (who is), you've spent a long time judging others in this thread. There have been generalisations, then the accusations that the people you've met in hotels in Mindanao are travelling for one sordid reason. Maybe they are, but it's not hurting me, and it's not hurting you. "People poor in relationships, and who have never had a girlfriend - nerds". I'd had maybe two or three gfs before I met my wife. Maybe I was bad in the relationship, maybe they were. The fact is, I'm not a "partner" person - I could easily go through my life alone with no nagging, no responsibilities, just me, the remote, a full bank balance, and the odd worldwide trip (for non-sordid reasons, but you're free to judge otherwise). When I did travel to the Philippines, I saw quite a few sixty-seventy plus years old, with wives/girls 30-40 years younger. mostly, the couples looked happy. She didn't look like she'd been beaten up, or left in the house while he went to the pub with his mates. He didn't look like he was being robbed. It's none of my business, and it's none of anyone else's business either.
Just one last post, judging by the replies here, at least some 'get' what I was meaning to say. I never meant to make anyone feel bad, or that they were 'losers'. I was merely commenting on what I had found over the last 10 years, both in real life, but particularly on forums.. This idea that women are commodities really gets my goat, mind, there are many.many examples where the filipina and her family is seeing a union as a business.. I'm sorry for any offence caused, and I hope you do actually accept my apology, it is meant. This place is actually full of people who respect their partners, rather than typical fil forums where the wife is treated like trash.. It's nice to see people here in the same age-range too, not saying that different age ranges are bad, but maybe I do feel resentment towards those for the general snide rubbish people tell me several times a year.. I know you need a skin like a rhino, and I'm a little shamed by the fact that I lit a firework, then was amazed it went off!! Still, everyone has their cards on the table, and that's the way I like to play it..
You spoke your mind which is always fine by me personally but I know you have upset others with your comments, you just have to be a little careful on forums like this as you never know if you are going to upset someone unintentionally. The age subject is always going to be a touchy one so its better not to go there really in my opinion.
Just for the record - I'm 49 and my wife is 30. I am still quite fit, just bagged 10 in 7 for the local 5 a side team. I am a young thinker.......you wouldn't notice 19 years difference to look at us, but thats not the point. As the starter of this thread I just wanted to hear the opinions out there, as I'd heard stuff here and there. Good luck to all of you. Happiness is NOT a number. I have discovered that. As for motive for doing anything? ONLY we know. Basically, who gives a HOOT !!! I Think Filipino women are the BEST. (scammers exempt of course!).
I suppose it depends upon which forums people read. Anyway, my pretty young wife is apparently (still ) looking forward to giving me a big hug tomorrow, when I arrive back in sweatyville.
This is the first post on this thread you've made where you've not contradicted yourself and made sense. If you'd wrote this first time you wouldn't have received the replies that you had. I honestly thought you where a troll at first but hopefully you'll be active member here if you stay along the lines of this post
There is a big age difference between K and I, but there is an extraneous factor. "There are", as was said in a very different context, "three people in this marriage!" The third one in our case is a seven year old boy. He knows who his "real father" is but he is not interested in him. He loves his stepfather, whom he has known since he was two. He loves life in England. His mother selected me because I am a good stepfather. And I love him.
