Since the thread had been dormant for so long, I wonder whether the OP is still reading it, but all I would say to anyone feeling unhappy in this area is that communicating about it is probably the best option. I believe that things in this area tend to go bad when there are unresolved problems in other areas. I would advise anyone who is unhappy with their relationship to be seriously talking to their partner first and foremost..
He has not been on-line since July 5, 2014 and he could not have read this thread without logging in.
Oh my goodness I didn't realize it started it 2014. I think the recent additions must have thrown me off
I reckon that you should ask direct what the matter is. Don't fret on it, if it is health related there are ways to fix most things.
If his behaviour is as you have described, then of course that is not normal for a heterosexual male of his age. You need to talk to him and get the situation sorted out. Without an enjoyable sex life, what are you, his housekeeper ? He is not being fair with you IMO.
This can easily become a huge problem, espescially in Anglo-Filipina relationships, where we have the typical "undemonstrative" British male and a Filipina who is herself "conservative". The potential for misunderstanding is huge, and whilst a trip to Relate might get itb sorted, it is not so easy for a cross cultural couple to go to see them as one partner or the other will feel shy about it.
We have planning that we having a baby. aaaaah--is that the issue? is your husband ready for that ? has he been married before ? does he have kids already ?
I think if he obliged in that he would provide you with children (all being well mechanically, so to speak). He should be honouring that part of the agreement. I think its a sad state of affairs if he reneges on that commitment.
Wow, you are lucky. I am 64 and there is no chance of that for me due to prostate cancer and its treatment.
nice one !! i'm 67--my fiancee is 45---and--we did discuss the possibility--well---it could happen.......
Cheers. I've assured my 88 year-old mum that I've no idea how this happened. hahaha. (My partner is 29).
Hi Cherryblossom, Have you been able to ask him in a gentle way why he does not get aroused any more? If you can find out whether it is a physical thing, a mental thing or perhaps even a combination of both. If he has some mental problems then perhaps you can encourage him to open up about things. Perhaps he could think about seeing the doctor to discuss his lack of libido? Viagra is a very powerful drug and it has helped many men get over their lack of power. Communication is the first step in my opinion. Best of luck.
Sex in a relationship is the thermometer. If you get along well, there will be love making....If not, nothing will happen..... You need to care before intimacy happens...
To quote my grandmother, born 1885, died 1986, "Sex won't make a marriage, but it can break one!" You need to talk this through.