Hi Everyone, For obvious reasons I want to keep this anonymous and see if anyone has any experience to this. I've not posted before so my username will be fine. But any help would be appreciated. By the way, I like the fact this forum now allows for an anonymous section and the new design is a lot slicker than before. Congratulations on all those responsible. However, I’ve not written a post here to complement you all. I’ve been married a few years now and my wife and I have lived together pretty much every day since, I’ve been away on business a couple of times as I often need to travel for conventions and meetings, but those are just a day or so every couple of months. I’ve never cheated on my wife and I don’t intend to either, but I am not happy with the state of my marriage. My wife was a virgin when we met as she had never married before, though I thought this was just her saying she was a virgin – she actually was. When we first started to have sex, the first few times were a disaster as her ******l opening was literally closed for business, too tight to even enter. I lost my erection due to not wanting to hurt her and how she didn’t really seem into it. But after a few attempts, plus the use of some lubricants we finally managed a successful union. This was about a few years ago and since then our love life has gotten worse. At first it was once a week, then once a fortnight, currently I am lucky if I get sex once every month. I’ve even gone as much as 2 months without. Due to these constant rejections, I often decide not to attempt to try and make a move. Often for no other reason than the fear of being rejected once again, it really does hurt my feelings when she rejects me. Over the last year or so I’ve been putting on a lot of weight. Due in part to some injuries and also to how I have come out of the gym. I used to be a gym rat, weightlifting was my thing and I enjoyed the workouts. I know as I’ve put weight on my wife finds me less attractive and it’s a vicious circle because the more weight I put on, the more she rejects me, the more I turn to other comforts (pizza, kebabs, beer). Every other day now she mentions my weight in a derogatory manner, making fun of me sometimes and this is getting me down even more. I’ve always been a big guy but I used to be able to control it with gym workouts and I used to play Rugby and other stuff. I am almost 40 and my wife is over 10 years younger than me, I know she gets a lot of attention because she is very pretty, people often tell me how lucky I am. I don’t feel lucky at all. People have pointed out to her how different we are because I am over 6 foot tall and she is just over 5 foot tall, I am big and she is very small and petite. I think she is conscious of this and people have looked at us in the street. I try to talk to her but she is far too interested in talking to her family and friends back home through Facebook and whatever apps she uses on her phone. In fact, as I watch TV at night I can hear her clicking her iPhone as she types out message after message, but we don’t communicate much, if at all most days. Can anyone relate to this?