I'm sure you are giving a one off example where the wide age gap has worked, from what I have seen this is Rare with the exception being where the man has pots of money, or where a Golden child or two has been involved, this can often cement a relationship that would otherwise be destined to failure, with the former where there is money involved it is false. If I had to go through this again and I was 69yrs and this was less than a month ago, I'm now 70, I'm thinking of a formula that has a better than even chance to work and I would choose someone half my age plus 10yrs, so this person would be 45yrs, past child bearing age and Red Rags no more, actually I have experience with women at ages slightly above 60yrs and that receptible in which to deposit your load does not change all that much, actually they are all the same no matter what arse they are hanging from, something else I can verify, in my time I have been a musician, I have played many a fine tune on these Old Violins and often they know better than you the next note to be played, sexual relations between two parties of similar age are definitely more gratifying to both parties, my Pinay partner is 30yrs my junior and younger than my Daughter this sometimes confuses/troubles me in the bedroom? when I see a man and a young woman 50yrs his junior I can only think of him as a perverted old basket.
I must say I am now very curious about you? perhaps you are with a very young partner and feel offended, I'm so very sorry if that is the case, this was never my intention, so please accept my apology. However if it so happens you are with a partner some 50yrs your junior? IMHO you are nothing more than a sexual predator.
Both of my ladies were my age, worked for me, seen a lot of pinoy/puti relationships fail in the 30+years since I first went to pinas,for a multitude of reasons.
Well in that case I really do apologise and mean it and I think she is an ideal choice for you and I wish you both a long and happy life together. Yours Sincerely Dave
There is a lot of truth from "Honest Dave" and truth can be hard to find, so more power to his keyboard! I also thought that Alan's situation was going to be very problematic. He hasn't looked in here for a week and I'd be surprised if he did come back, who knows? Going over there at 69 with no contingency fund for inevitable health scares is a recipe for disaster.
Some of the content and innuendo on this thread is IMHO nothing short of smut , bigoted and perhaps the worst I’ve seen on here. Just saying like! Happily married to a younger women If I was a new member and read this thread it would be “blimey I’m off”
I notice Alan is online... feel free to reach out to the community here Interesting how some threads find a life of their own...
Hi Everyone, I gather I have missed many replies or whatever on here since I spoke about my relationship with a young lady in the Philippines and people have wondered why I have disappeared. Well the simple answer to that is my 95 year old Mother has recently passed away and along with my sister we have been dealing with everything surrounding her death. Although I have never asked for anything from anyone and am not money orientated her death will actually eventually benefit me financially so will help with a trip to see my love one. As regards my relationship with the lady in the Bataan yes she is younger than me 35 years and I have and still am asking myself why? That said I am a fit, healthy slim 69, no medication, walk everywhere and live a very simple lifestyle with only occasional visits to pubs and restaurants. My great interest lies in nature, wildlife photography and I am an all rounder, birds, insects, plants, fungi, everything really and that cost next to nothing. She also lives a very simple life and that is probably the reason we get on so well. She along with her family run a small farm selling vegetables. She rides a motorcycle and lives poorly. I like all that and of course I could potentially improve her life. First a trip of course and if we continue on from our online relationship then we will find some land, build a house and have are own plot for growing things. It all sounds good to me if it works. Our relationship in my eyes is based truly on LOVE and if she is fooling me she is extremely good at it. We speak twice a day on Facebook messenger and despite a language barrier get by with my Tagalog translation and her reasonably good English. We have spoke of me visiting her but it is stressful trying to arrange flights and accommodation for us away from her home where she lives with her Mum. The language problem not helping however neither she or I do not wish to rush into anything because at the end of the day if our love is strong enough we will be together. In fact I am constantly delaying taking a trip out there as wish to get a better grip on Tagalog but also need maps of the Bataan Peninsula and Balanga as I love maps and like to know where I am. If anyone can recommend a map that would be brilliant. I also wish I could meet other Filipino's here at home so as to get a better understanding of where I am heading and the language. I could say lots more but am done now. I think also as many of you may reply to this thread that I am extremely busy still sorting out Mums passing, organising wildlife events for a group I run in Brecon, just doing things to live and of course chatting to my lady friend. Happy New Year to yo all!
Thanks Alan - nice to hear from you and sorry to hear about your Mum. I tend to use Google Earth and switch to Map view. Before I drive somewhere new, I do a test drive using Google street view... it's not perfect but it's pretty good - I haven't got lost yet. Given your age1, it's a pity you cannot find somewhere to live there and take her back to Wales - raise a few eyebrows with the locals I suppose 1 I mention that because 1) it's a fact that things stop working as you get older and 2) it's very-very-very humid here and that can cause all kinds of problems with your feet, crotch and everything...!
glad to see you back on here Alan--and condolences on your loss. I lost my old dad when i was your age..7 years ago this month--where has that gone! As regards the age difference between you and your lady--i think you will be OK--its only 5 years more than @HONEST DAVE---so will most likely meet with his approval, should you feel inclined to give the slightest sh1t.
That's your opinion, but I suggest you tone down your generalisations, you appear to be annoying some members on this forum. So what if an older guy goes with a younger lady? None of your business. Are they breaking the law? No, so, live and let live. Its happening all over the world. Anymore attempts at labelling will result in posts being moderated.
Thanks for the info John. I am aware of using maps on Google but I prefer the paper form, however it might have to be your way by the looks of things. By the way I take no notice of some comments on here, sounds a bit like my old Mum judging everyone but herself.
Ok Sir I consider myself to be reprimanded, I do admit some of my comments were very close to the bone. Having lived there in PH for 9yrs and spending a lot of time socialising with other Foreigners, (mostly in Bars) I got to know a lot of people, during this time I witnessed so many relationships fail, I could not put a figure to this but it may have been as much as 50%, the ones that did stand the test of time usually were the ones not having an extreme age gap between the male and a mature female partner, when there had been a big difference in age between the two these relationships were often ones that did not last, of that few that did appear to be OK, usually the man was in a sound financial position.
Having lived there in PH for 9yrs and spending a lot of time socialising with other Foreigners (mostly in Bars)... Interesting sample set Dave
Like all over the world, marriages flounder due to being a bar widow, everybody else’s making bar their own. As the line goes in Piano Man “ making love to his tonic and gin”
