Whilst you might have entered into a courtship with a lady of the Philippines, what about back in the UK, who have you told about it ? or is that you tell people you are talking to a Filipina ! Well that may be true, after all she is actually Filipino by nationality, but the distinction stops there.

But she certainly is not called "Filipina" remember she is an individual lady with lovely qualities, can be very romantic and shy..gentle..so you are not courting, or engaged to a Filipina, she does have a name, its simply not acceptable to address her by the term "The Filipina" surely you should use her name.

You should really be saying it like this "My girlfreinds name is.....she comes from the Philippines" This lady has a name...her name might be Josi Villero Hernandez, she isn't a object..a rag doll you saw at the toy store, or a commmodity you can just buy and sell, then just dipose of, and get another one.

At some stage you will need to take your relationship into the public domain, that is introducing your lady to freinds, family work colleagues, that is even if she is still in the Philippines, how does that work. Are you really safe right now taking your relationship public with your lady ?....remembering what I said earlier ?

Have you told all your freinds about your girlfreind, have you told your Mother you British Guys..what did she say ? hmmmm was it "Oh one of those foreign women" ??? I bet she did

have you kept that Filipina beauty you have been pursuing secret from your family...hmmm if you have watch out...you are in for some trouble. The main reason Western Men keep their relationship secret is because the are in fear of the reaction of those closest to them in their everyday lives, this could be because of bigotry or zenophobia that exists everywhere in the United Kingdom Western Europe and the United States of America.

You tend to hear very often "Why can't you get a woman of your own race" this is common and seeks to put forward the notion that all races attract each other. This is simply an out dated principle, with ever increasing Globalization, trans migrational populations and the Power of modern communication, this principle has been shattered to its very core.

It is well known now that many Filipina's are attracted to Western Men and vice versa, Western Men are highly attracted to South East Asian women, not just Filipina's but women of the South Eeast Asian Region.

You may also be afraid of neighbours reactions "Oh its one of those filipino women!" this is common as most of them have seen some daytime talk show that shows Western men turning up in town with a strange looking girl on his arm that has jet black hair and doesnt quite look like that girl next door you used to know" You might have convinced yourself that it would be better to keep your relationship secret until xxxx arrives in the UK and is living in your house....trust me if you thought that you thought wrong !!!!

So let me tell you how it should be !!!

There are certainly not millions of ladies just like yours, out there in the Philippines, she is a unique individual, just like Sharon Smith the girl next door...you used to go out with..or Stacy Thompson that girl you sat next to in Arts and Crafts when you were getting bored...and thinking about ways to wag school. So you are engaged to a lovely unique individual who is going to love you for the rest of your life and be your wife...and do everything that is required of a wife...so let me be a little hard on you and state "That if you are too ashamed to take your relationship public and shout about it from the roof tops then quite frankly you don't deserve her" She is worth much more than that....and rightly so...so remembering that none of your freinds,work colleagues or family know the slightest thing about your girl do they ? they don't know how hard she worked to get herself a Batchelors degree...they don't know how her Father worked hard to put her through University of the Philippines, they don't know anything about your fiancee'...so how can they judge her.

No one can make judgement about anyone they have never met...so can you make a defence in public, about your lovely Filipina bride that is to be ? if you can't ! then maybe you are ashamed of your relationship...and if you are..then perhaps its better not for you to take it any further....because when you finally end up together in the United Kingdom living together as Man and Wife..she is going to need all the support you can give her...because this time..she is the foreigner and People think that you are basically a guy who cannot get a woman in this country.

People will assume that all Filipina's are the same because of subjective media reporting and the few rotten apples that spoil it for genuine relationships, and that they all just marry for economic migration. You have 2 options here: Educate people about your love for her, and be prepared to defend her in public in any given situation. Or: Hide away from them, and make excuses. If you choose the easy option, that is to hide away...you are basically admitting that you cannot defend your wife..in front of our own people...if that is the case...you are in for some trouble...if you take option 1...your relationship can go from great to Fantastic, and anyone including your close family, your work colleagues and freinds, will be in no doubt as to the serious of your relationship so best of luck.

Summary: Don't be ashamed of your loved one, when dealing with freinds, colleagues, or the general public in the UK, remember its the two of you in this world against every one else, and when the sun goes down and you shut your door, who cares what anyone else thinks. Hong Kong Asia's World city (point your browser here to go to Discover Hong Kong) Its also a great place to propose, and if you want my recommendation although it didn't happen this way for us, you could propose to your girl at the top of Victoria peak, I mean when she looks down on the beauty of Hong Kong's skyline, and the thousands of skycrapers, how can she say "No" to you, best of luck all of you who go there behind us.

Have you taken a look at Boracay yet ?or have you checked out Thailand ? or fancy a day out to the Province of Bohol