Hello, Sadly my wife's father passed away last night after a battle with pneumonia. It's particularly distressing because my wife hasn't been home for 5 years, and arranged to go on August 22nd. Her father was 82, a real nice guy who made me so welcome when I went there. My wife is now travelling on Saturday and will return on August 23rd. I am already missing her. I sound selfish, I know that. I'm just looking for some advice to survive 18 days without my girl. She needs to go home, and I really appreciate that. And it is only for 2 weeks - but I will miss her so greatly and so deeply. When you are missing your loved one, how do you cope?
We have all been there, she will be back before you know it, remain positive. I will always remember Skyping with my then girlfriend who at the time was living in Dubai, she received a call while we were talking telling her that her father had died, I felt totally helpless and it was painful to watch her crying and being able to do little to console her. At least I had the opportunity to meet her father on a couple of occasions. Life can be tough.
Thanks Timmers... At least I can be thankful I was there when the news came through. In fact, I was the one to break the news, I could put my arm around her and listen to her. Life really can be cruel - I was hoping her father could hold on, or better still make a full recovery. I will be here with my son - so he will keep me busy. But, whenever we go and do something, I will feel a huge hole and in the past I have just turned around to go home instead. It will help if I know my wife is enjoying (I know that sounds odd, but being with her family will make all the difference to her) her stay there. I am also a natural worrier, and have been a bit paranoid about her coming home and getting problems at Border Control. There is no reason why she should (she is on an ILR) - but I am a natural born worrier. If there is nothing to worry about, I start to invent things.
Its only natural to worry, you're not on your own there, your wife will not have any problems at passport control on her return to the UK.
Sorry to hear about your wife's news. Without wishing to sound unduly harsh, I feel that your wife needs the sympathy rather than you. It's 2 weeks. Let's try and keep it in perspective. Best thing you can do is chin up, man up and consider that 2 weeks peace and quiet to do your own thing is a treat, not a chore. Make it an opportunity for self growth. Take up a new hobby. Learn a musical instrument. Read a new book. See an old friend. Watch all the movies that she hates to watch with you. She will be just fine on return and life is hard enough without worrying and inventing issues.
