It has been over a month now since I arrived back in the UK and all I can say is the month of April dragged like I could never have thought.. I mean, I am feeling weird with respect to what is going to happen in the coming months, weird in a good way. I am really looking forward to finally being with Joy and starting a life with her, but also trying not to make plans in case I need to quickly change those plans depending on what happens in June. But I guess this is a similar feeling to how many of you felt at the time before you made preparations for your visas, being away from your other half for what feels like an eternity. And so, how did you lot do it? Did you do what I am doing and just take each day at a time, making silent plans as to what your next step was. Or did you set yourself a time-line and stuck to that plan no matter what? Now before anyone starts feeling sorry for me, please don’t as I am not feeling down or depressed. What I am going through however is a feeling of restlessness and boredom at the same time. By that I mean I am always thinking ahead to Joy's visa and the things I need to do in order to make that happen, but bored when it comes to anything that might take my mind off of that task – with exception to the odd nugget of a time-out like a film or a drink with friends or something. Despite trying not to make any set plans until July, so I can deal with what the new rules will be come June. I still find myself looking at new flats and houses in the local area, weighing up how good would they be for me and Joy to start a life together, ensuring good transport routes for work and to make sure Joy will not be bored there. I also find myself browsing around websites looking at furniture and general stuff needed for a new home. I have also been looking around Asian stores, pricing up an initial shopping trip to kit the new home out with basic supplies to help Joy feel at home, then walking out with a can of Nestea Iced Tea with lemon instead of buying anything substantial (love that stuff though since getting the taste for it in Valencia). So that is me at the moment – in limbo! So how did you guys feel at the time you went through this?
For me easy-peasy.............. Between work, and getting all the suff together for the family permit. it was a breeze.......... I didn't have much time to mope and think. Forward plans have the bad habit of coming unstuck, and need changing or amending, so I took a day at the time until she arrived.
Kuya, I just worked every hour I could and jogged a lot also. I found excercise gave me time to keep thinking of the future while I ran many miles. I also went on the previous forum to see how everyone felt then. For me, day-by-day seemed to be the only way to get through. My advice would be to keep thinking of Joy and stay positive for the future. I learnt that being married to the most beautiful woman kept me feeling focused. My wife was a little bored when she first came over but not much; now there aren't enough hours in the day for her with our two kids
I guess it might have been a bit easier for you Dom, EEA rules and all that... If only I had been born in France I hit the gym last week. Did my knee in... So, for now I am resting it and when I go back I plan to hit the multitrainer so I can lessen the impact on my knees. But I like that idea Mike So I guess that won't change then for me.. Yup. Joy does look amazing and I think looking at her pictures a few times a day might help get me thinking positive at all times..
I guess i was lucky to when i returned after the wedding I also was full on into work and then the interesting visa apps eu or not lol there wasnt time to feel limbo just continued annoyance with the beaurocrats but in hindsight it was an easy process and now i know it backwards
I suppose in a few months or so, after the visa has been applied for and (hopefully) received. I will be wondering why I was anything other than calm and collected..
My info is a little "outdated" August 1990, the arrival of my first (ex) wife in Germany.(Then GF from MNL for a few months) In the same month Europe changed its Visa policy and one had to get a Fiance Visa to marry. Imanaged to get the hurdles anyhow, although i did not intend to marry in the first place, i was still hoping to just to the 3 monthly visa runs across any neighjbroingborder with her and stay unmarried. Well, those days are long gone,lol. However, i remember still the nervous thoughts and feelings during this time. looking aroundfor suitable clothes and "arranging" for a female in my life. Made many plans for sightseeings and other introductions. All came different anyhow,she attented the free German School for three months at first and quickly made the aquaintances of many other Pinays(unfortunately most were Bargirls and dubious characters), so i did not needed to bother too much about her being "lonely" while i ran my then brand new Company,which kept me naturally busy for 12-14 hours daily.Well,anyhow, she started working after 6 weeks ( 1st job- McDo, lol ) and i was kinda relieved of the "entertaining" part. I then also joined a German/Philippine association in order to meet other "bilaterals". Normally in those organisations one finds serious people,and i only had one other buddy with a pinay wife,so i was in a bit of a need for contacts. all in allprety smooth due to the adaptability of Filipinos in general. And considering the language problem in Germany,i think,things will be much smoother in the UK.
