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Discussion in 'UK Visa and Immigration Help' started by j charleston, Mar 21, 2020.

  1. j charleston
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    j charleston New Member

    Hi all my story first of all thank you for all your excellent help we wouldn't have got this fare without you all. Ok two months ago I set off to the Philippines to Mary my Fiancé, but the volcano erupted so wasn't sure if I could get to Manila but thankfully I did few got married happy days, sorting out all paperwork took tb test passed took English test and waited three weeks but then the corona virus was there so there was a lock down so still haven't been to vfs globe to start the visa :( I am back home now but had the last flight out of Manila. So my wife is over there and I'm here I'm gutted and don't know how long it will be before I see her again I am sooooo upset it hurts I just wanted to post to try and make me fell a bit better thank you again for all your help
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    it usually takes several weeks--even months in some cases. usually delays caused by the sponsor not meeting the financial requirements--and thinking it doesnt apply in their case because they love each other soo much.
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    aposhark Well-Known Member Lifetime Member

    Hi j charleston,
    It must be very painful for both of you but try to stay positive until the day you can both be together.
    Everybody all over the world is living in very strange times and we are all living in hope that the stress we are all feeling will end asap.
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    Mattecube I have no need Trusted Member

    A difficult time for you both.
    Suggest you use the time to ensure your application is ready for when new applications are going to be accepted and the biometric centres reopen.
    Hang on in there and good luck
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    This is a really sad story that will be repeating for many people around the world today, borders closing shutting people apart from each other, I for one am now cut off from visiting my kids.

    This is one reason why we desperately need the Antibody test for this illness but it will take a long time to scale up production of the test that has been created in Northern Ireland and of course if it really works reliably.

    If we could give people the all clear after them testing positive for antibodies to SARS-Cov-2 then all the younger people who get it and get better could get back to their lives right then, they then become productive and useful members of society again wherever they happen to be in the world.

    Sadly I expect the availability of such tests will be even more limited in the Philippines but I really hope that lots of companies can ramp up production of this test as it will save lives by letting people back to work anyone who has had it including those where symptoms were so mild that the person didn't even realise they had it, if they get tested they can get back to a normal life and they can also safely help others in their own families and in their own communities.
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  6. aposhark
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    aposhark Well-Known Member Lifetime Member

    What test, Jim?
  7. oss
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    I think you mentioned it the other day, there is a lab in Northern Ireland that has created an antibody test that gives a result in 10 minutes, antibody tests can detect immunity, the PCR tests detect infection they are opposites, if you test positive for the antibodies after you felt a bit ill and got better then you are immune, if you have a PCR test and test clear you are still at risk.

    I'll try and find the link it was on the BBC I think.
  8. aposhark
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    I have thought about you many times, and others in your situation, Jim.
    It is really hard to be apart from your kids. I empathize with people in this situation.
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    aposhark Well-Known Member Lifetime Member

    I've got the page now, Jim.
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    For me the real issue is that they might, realistically, never see me again, at my age the chances are 1 chance in 25 of dying, that's Russian roulette and that's a game I would rather not play hence a desire to stay at home as much as possible, and I mean look at Italy with their numbers are 10% mortality just now that could be the true death rate when hospital facilities are overwhelmed, that's terrifying that's a new dark ages starting.

    If Italy's numbers are skewed by under testing then a hell of large number of Italians have this already we are talking half a million to a million Italians have this in order to bring the mortality rate down to something more comfortable to hear, is there any suggestion from Italy that those kind of numbers of people actually feel ill or like they have a mild cold right now?

    If there are fewer Italians actually infected right now then the true mortality rate there is horrifying, but contrast it with Germany which has a very high number of confirmed infections but a tiny percentage of deaths, this is really strange.

    Imagine 10% of the Philippines dying, 10 million people or more, that won't happen because the demographic is very young in the Phils but the percentage could still be high and some young people will still die for lack of hospital care.
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  12. aposhark
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    I understand your fears, Jim.
    I see many people at work - in transport offices and also drivers.
    People are just getting on with their jobs.

    The towns and cities are deserted but we all have jobs to do.
    There are bus drivers and taxi drivers who are still moving people around.
    There is a "esprit de corps" in the country which is unsaid but understood.
    Stay strong and positive.
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    And all of those people that are still exposing themselves through their jobs have my respect, admiration and thanks.

    And i realise you are one of them Mike!

    I am damn lucky that I can work at home I am in a privileged position, very few can do that.
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  14. aposhark
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    I have my bad days, Jim.

    Sometimes I feel like jacking everything in for a while but I have a wife and two kids with bills still coming in.
    My wife is down to two days now with schools being closed and she refuses to stop work.

    When I am in work, I am far more positive as it is so busy and it stops me from looking at online news which is so negative and depressing.

    It is so strange because being at work seems so easy as there doesn't seem to be any panic and people are carrying on.

    I have a hernia operation (under the knife - local anaesthetic) at the beginning of April and have been told I won't be able to work for a month afterwards. C'est la vie.

    We all have worries in varying degrees and we all wait for a time when things are much, much better.

    j charleston, the thread starter, is thousands of miles away from his new wife.
    We all struggle.
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    Sorry I'm late but I want to add my understanding of your pain.
    Just remember, it won't be like this forever and what you are going through will make the love stronger.
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  16. j charleston
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    Short but sweet your right all we can do is wait, but I feel the pain every day I miss being with my new wife. Take care all
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    Back in 2008, I missed my fiancée/wife so much also.
    I couldn't relax and felt a deep loss when I left her to work back in the UK.
    I used to jog a lot and used that time to think about everything that needed to be done and to think about being with her.
    Running got me through the dark days.
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  18. uklove
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    Sorry my message was short but I really do understand how you are feeling. I used to leave the lady who is now is my asawa in Mindanao.
    We never said goodbye, we just said see you soon even though 'soon' was probably going to be six months.
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  19. j charleston
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    Did it all work out for you both in the end? It is not a nice place to be without the one you love
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    i first met my--now--wife back in 2011---here local to me in the UK. she was here on a 4 years student visa--sadly in its final year. before it expired, we were living together.

    she went home in august 2012, and i didnt see her again till a year later. she got a visit visa--and came over and stayed the full 6 months allowed. we got engaged christmas day 2013--and she went home january 2014.
    i didnt see her again, for several reasons, till she arrived in feb 2016 with her fiancee visa. we will be celebrating our 4 th anniversary in april.

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    so--be patient! you will get there eventually.

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