"that we all deserve a second chance" I would imagine that most of the chaps on here are with a Filipina as a second chance, and are very happy as a consequence.
Actually,I think its a bit more complicated than that.. If a married woman screws around with another man then that is clearly adultery.. If a married man chooses to keep a mistress then that is only concubinage! If a married man can prove that his wife screwed around then he can file an adultery charge against his wife AND the other guy and its all a bit straight forward.. If a wife wants to file a Concubinage charge against her husband then this is where the law all gets a bit more complicated!!! If the guy manages to keep his mistress discreetly and in a non scandalous fashion I doubt very much that the wife would get the charges to stick.. The balances are weighted... Its still a Man`s world over here according to the law!
Whilst all that's true, there are remedies for concubinage. If the guy is a foreigner, the wife can report him to BoI who could stick him in jail on some pretext and deport him. Or, if the wife has her dad or brothers closeby, there could be a funeral in the offing!
For one, I couldn`t afford to keep a Mistress and secondly I have no wish to receive a Filipino haircut! I`m a good boy Timmers!
Interesting, I had always naïvely assumed it was a gender neutral law but in fact only the woman and the man committing the act can be prosecuted for adultery, and the husband that sleeps around only has to make sure that the partner of the night is not married
No!! He has to keep it very quiet and low key because if people find out and it becomes a big scandal then that is against the law!! Its not cheap or easy to maintain a wife and a Mistress over here.. One of my inlaws had one that he had stashed away in Manila for years...In effect he had two families to support with children in each one. I have been to both his residences..Surreal. To his credit though all his kids became college grads and all now have good professions.. Last time I saw him though he looked tired..Very very tired.
I have an ex sister in law who jokes that the reason the Police are corrupt is because being a policeman is a "macho" profession, so a policeman has to have a mistress as well as a wife, and of course children by the mistress, but the Police salary does not allow for this...
Poor sod. Having one family with kids is hard work enough. Imagine having two... An old friend of mine had three girlfriends at once for a while. He was absolutely drained and a shell of a man. In the end he had to admit that polygamy was vastly overrated and turned over a new leaf.
As a young solicitor's Articled Shark my Principal drove a 911 and had three girlfriends, all of whom were air hostesses. Answering the telephone called for a very high level of skill and tact. One of them got him up the aisle and life became much quieter.
hmm i have thesame prob. with you 2die4 my husband one time i found a picture of husband ex gf in his laptop and its a naked pictures of her all private part that happend after we ot married. and its breaks me now i dont trust my husband anymore he didnt tell me his password in fb,linken and more. and he want me trust him REally?? maybe not anymore.some husband are not contented yet even if they are already married.its just annnoying..dont worry girl chip up lan hehe..good luck.
I feel for you young lady, its good for people like your good self to highlight this kind of behaviour, must be very distressing for you I'm sure. Trust has to be earned it is not something that is easily given and having fruity pictures of an ex is a no no, when things like this come out you cannot help but wonder if something else is going on, its human nature Filipinas giving up their lives and families back home to marry a British chap and to be treated like this is truly shameful.
Hi Timmers, I tend to look at this issue in a different way - from the perspective of a photographer. I have taken photographs of many, many different people since I got a SLR camera back in 1977. The photos are of many different people and many are from a different time, from years before my wife was even born, in my case. All of the photos are captures of my life and I would not even throw one away, for any reason. Everybody has a past and I believe we must jointly acknowledge that with our partners. If any images could cause sadness, then it is probably best not to hang it on the wall. It is far from being shameful in my way of thinking. I think we should look out of the box and not be so rigid.
I have another way of looking at it. K asked me for pictures of my "exes" and to my dismay I could not find photos of my girlfriends or of my first wife. Nor could I find photos of an expedition that I took part in in my twenties, though there were a few in a book. That was a pity. Sexy photos of a partner who is not a professional model are in a different category. I love taking them and it can be fun for both partners, but I scrupulously returned the Polaroids (yes, that it was that long ago!) of my first wife and the video tapes of my second and deleted all such pictures. I think that is what one should do when one breaks up. It is the act of a gentleman and none the worse for that. To keep such pictures is unfair to the "ex" and not nice for the current partner.
So, if you were a photographer, would you throw away many old photographs because of a new partner who may not be your partner for long (hopefully not for you)?
If they were intimate photographs of a partner who was not a professional model being photographed professionally, yes, for sure. But not because of a new partner, but out of a sense of what is right for the ex partner. That's what I have always done. I think that is the right thing to do. I think I am right in saying that posting "revenge porn" is now a criminal offence? Photographs of other people are in a different category.
I think we have to agree to differ on this one and "posting revenge porn" is so far off the mark that I think you hit the corner flag when trying to put it in the back of the net
