Hi all I'm new to the forum. I hope to make the most of the information available as I begin looking for a partner. Hopefully I will make a few friends along the way as I soak up all the advise that you guys have to offer. I have plenty of questions to ask and will probably need a little help as I figure out my path on this journey.
Hi Scott , welcome to the forum, you will find lots of helpful information and advice here . What is the plan for finding a partner ? Obviously you are looking for a Filipino .
I'm not really sure I have a solid plan to be honest. I was thinking of joining a dating site and going from there. To be honest however I try I know I will be in over my head .Dating is something I haven't really done as I had been so focused on chasing a dream. I went all in but I never quite made it (that's motor sport). I know there will be a lot of hurdles in my way but I think I need to face them head on. Other than online dating I cant really think of any other alternatives. While I'm working out what to do I am trying to read what I can on the culture, customs and anything else I can on the area or of relevance.
Dating sites can be a good start for seeing photos , reading a little bit about the person , and making initial contact . They can also be a bit of a minefield , until you get some experience of how they work . There are many genuine people, but also people who are looking to use their anonymity , to take advantage of a newbie . To be honest , the best way of all is to visit their country , meet in person , maybe meet the family , and get a feel for it all . Having said that , the dating site will give you the chance to make contact with a person or persons of interest before you actually arrive there . You can always ask for advice on the forum , from members who have already travelled on the journey you are contemplating. Their experiences , good or bad , will help you I’m sure . Good luck .
Personally, I wouldn't bother with dating sites. From all that I have read about them, they have a success rate down in the 1000's to 1. If I were you, although I don't know a single thing about you, I would jump on a plane and head to Philippines. You will learn more about Filipino culture and tradition in one month than years spent on dating sites. Chances are, you will also meet several prospects along the way. Enjoy the journey, I sure did.
on the other hand--i met my wife through a dating site...but it wasnt a specifically asian site--it was plenty of fish. she was here in the UK--in same small town as me. in her PoF profile she had stated she was asian. just turned out the was filipina--i knew nothing about their culture. @Scott_B .......why do you want a filipina ?
I met mica on a dating site but unless transgender are your thing I wouldn't recommend it. There are also plenty of working Philippino working abroad.
I met my Filipino wife on a dating site, ie DIA but beware you need to know the ropes on most dating sites, I met two other women off DIA before i met my wife, the first one we agreed to meet (No strings) after chatting for some time on DIA we got along great but when i got back she told me that she was already married to an American guy, The second woman i had met on DIA we finally arranged to meet, and to be honest there were issues between us a few arguements lol.. so that didnt work out, then i met my wife, and the rest as we say is history..
Sorry for the late reply but things are a bit chaotic at the moment. also apologies in advance as it is rather long. Thanks for the warnings about the dating sites. The risk is something that although I cant ignore it I can live with it as the benefit of getting to know someone before making that sort of trip seems worth it as I'm not the most confident person when meeting new people so this may help. I want to go out there in the new year however, family and work commitments may stop me from going out there any time soon. At least if I start with a dating site I could move to video calls before flying out. I had thought about putting some pictures of me in my racing cars from back in the day (spread over the last 5 years) on my dating profile when I set it up. However after thinking about it for a while I'm worried that it would give out the wrong impression of me. A lot of people see the cars and make a lot of false conclusions about me. When I'm not in race mode I'm a lot less confident and more like the real me. I used racing to hide my problems I don't want to do that hear. I might put some pictures of me driving my heavy lifter truck at work as I am as proud of my accomplishments at work as I am my racing ones. As for why specifically I'm looking for a Filipino I will try to answer that as best I can. I'm hopping that a Filipino lady will share more of the ideals that i value in common. Maybe naively I also hope that they may be more accepting of my flaws and the real me. To be honest the person I'm looking for does not even need to be from the Philippines or Asia in general. I hold the old fashioned belief that when you find the right partner you will be together for life through the good and the bad. I think that that belief in particular is not generally held over here any more.
Hi Scott a belated welcome, have a look at a site on Facebook called "are you interested" maybe helpful, I agree with your path of finding a partner chat first then have a non commital holiday over in the Philippines and see how it goes, worst thing that could happen (providing you keep your guard up) is you have a good holiday with a pleasant person. Oh and by the way watch for skillful scammers, but I am sure you are aware of this.
Nice interesting reply Scott , and you make some good points . Regarding your choice of nationality , obviously, the members in this forum , have chosen to be with a Filipino , and they will no doubt be happy to share with you their reasons for that choice . For myself , I will say that I have found in Filipinas , qualities and an attitude that disappeared from many western ladies many years ago. If you find the right person , you will have a committed partner who appreciates even the smallest things , and their happy disposition, will make you see things in a completely different way . Take things slowly, because you might be surprised how quickly things can happen when you are chatting to a Filipino person Keep in touch , and enjoy the journey . I certainly have .
Personally I think it is very important that prospective partners do (genuinely) share your interests. I therefore WOULD post some pictures of you and your racing...as well as your truck. The differences in our cultures make dating/relationships awkward enough at times, without feeling 'alone' in your enthusiasm for your (main ?) interest in life.
Good point well made Graham, It would be a major plus to meet someone who is into racing I just hope that it does not portray me as something I am not. But as you say it is a part of my life weather I continue when I meet my partner is another question as I don't think I would be able to justify the outlay when I could spend it on our life together and a home that we would share. That with said my current toy is road legal so if I could afford to I could keep it for the road. As for my heavy lifter truck it is something I am truly proud of as it is something I never thought I would be capable of driving but I can and do. Hopefully after I get a few more years experience then I may be able to get a job on Felixstowe docks earning a lot more money not that my wages are bad I just have to put in a lot of hours to get it. Does anyone know if there is much coverage of motor sport in the Philippines? I know it is a long way of but does the minimum annual income to get a visa take into account overtime or does it have to be in basic hours as my income is boosted by 10hrs guaranteed overtime. With plenty of overtime at the weekends should I want it. I should be okay either way but it will be nice to have a bit of a buffer.
Just finished chatting with my lovely wife. Briefly, Income is salaried thats fixed hours, or non salaried which is variable hours, if you are employed you need 6 months wage slips and bank statements, if you are self employed you need 12 months.. Here is a great link which tells you everything that you need to know, about Spouse visas, but a lot of it covers Fiancee visas. https://www.migrate.org.uk/spouse-visa-uk-2018/
There's this (a sport I've followed, and participated in for almost 50 years now) : . Also a race circuit in Batangas, Luzon... south of Manila.
Graham you are a man after my own heart but if I shipped my track car out there I would be too fast to race : ( next year I would like to have a go at v-max racing. My old racer was in the single digits standing quarter this car will never be that quick but I find it more fun. It is good to know that I will at least be able to keep up with the f1 when I go out there However unlike in motor sport whatever happens I will want to take things slowly. I will definitely be giving the link a good read later. I must have re-wrote my profile at least a dozen times now. I seem to be going through a faze of self discovery recently as I have been looking for a few pictures to put up with my profile but I cant find many pictures of me without my lid on or driving something. I never realised I was that camera shy. Thank you all for the information and the warm welcome you have given me so far. How did/do you deal with the time difference?
I never find the time difference to be a problem after a couple of days . Don’t worry too much about your profile . A few details about who you are and where you are , and a brief line on what you’re looking for will suffice .. A photo with a smile will help. Just be yourself .
