meeting filipinos in england

hi my name is andy i am new to this sight, i would like to meet a filipino lady in england, ? does anybody know how i can meet one in england, thanks andy

Hi Andy,

Meeting a Filipina (feminine term is the correct way) in England is a bit hit and miss in my opinion.
There are many nurses for example but I would think most Filipinas in the UK are already married or engaged to be married.
The best way to meet Filipinas is to go to the Philippines and see for yourself.
Lots of us (me included) met our Filipina wives over there. Others met on dating sites and progressed that way.
Best of luck in your search.

hi all so does anybody know any sites her in england that filipina use i dont realy want to keep going back to the phils just want see if i can find a girl here

Filipinas here in the UK will most probably be married already. There might be a few who are single, most likely nurses as they came here on a working visa but you won't find many who are single.

i met mine through plenty of fish. she was already here nearby--on a student visa. she just happened to be filipina. there were 2 or 3 other pinay on the search. but if you are particularly attracted to filipinas you would find far more on sites like date in asia.

where in the Philippines have you been?why have you not had much luck over there?

Filipinas like anyone else will just use whichever dating site that appeals to them. Im sure there will be some on POF here in the UK. You could also try a Christian dating site possibly. As stated, I doubt there are a great many single filipinas here.


I know you know this already but if you’re really set on dating a filipina then trips to the Philippines is the real solution.

My Filipina stepdaughter (from my first marriage) lives in the UK. In her 20's, single, beautiful, highly intelligent... with honours degree , has a very good job, speaks and writes perfect English... using correct grammar, ahem, and is now a British Citizen.

You won't be finding her on any dating sites though. lol

Have you told Nick

most of the Filipinos I have come across in the UK - I would guess about 70% - and certainly the very large majority of those that started out in the Philippines and were not born in the UK, they are not only not single but in relationships already, but they are also not in relationships with Brits. They tend to be with not Brits, but other Filipinos. Same goes for other Asians, Vietnamese, Thais, Chinese etc. They are largely not in mixed-race relationships at all.

I have also see 2nd generation filipinos (whose filipino parents are resident in the UK) wanting or have specifically met Filipinas .

One Filipino guy I know in the UK - just met him in a local pub about 10 years ago - emigrated age 10 with his family from Toledo, Cebu which is a town - well, a small city really - that I know really quite well. He was totally amazed that I was able to describe it so accurately and knew the names of many of its barangays. Emigrating at that quite late age, he had already learnt Bisaya and was literate, totally 100% fluently and never forgot it, unlike some other Filipinos (and also other Asians) I have known who emigrated to the UK when they were younger ages than that, like about 5, and who can forget their 'mother' tongue quickly after being immersed in the UK for a few years.

he went through the UK school system and college, got loads of white friends, and obviously got heavily westernized. But he then nevertheless set about wanting to get a Filipino girl but there weren't that many in the UK available. He said there were Chinese and Malaysians and other Asians in the college and in the city he lived in, but he didn't want them (and, I suspect, they didn't want him either). So he actually did what many white UK guys do, and even though being only about 27, signed up to a dating website or three, went out to Cebu, met and married this Cebuana, and over a period of time, arranged a visa to the UK.

she came over and all went well for a while, several years, but then she got her permanent residency, passport etc and she upped and left him. She went to Newport, South Wales of all places where he heard on the grapevine that there was a Filipino guy there who she knew from before, an ex-boyfriend or something from Cebu who was a seafarer. She moved in with him and about 4 other Filipinos all living in a shared house.

I don't know exactly what happened of course, and I never met her. I only have his version of events to go on. Anything could have happened. They could have split for any number of reasons. But from talking to him, what I suspect, is that even though he'd emigrated quite late, and IS a Filipino, he may have been still too westernized for her to be really comfortable with. She sought out some other Filipino who's adult personality had fully formed, like hers had, completely, in the Philippines. When I suggested that to him, he said maybe. He did not deny it outright. He knew that even though he classed himself as a Filipino, he wasn't anything like as Filipino as she was. Because he had emigrated when still a child, he had become and grown up as, at least partly something else too.

which brings us to what is a Filipino and what isn't. That dual nationality personal identity thing. I've met Fili-Ams in the Philippines from the same kinds of backgrounds as that, where they don't even know themselves if they are Filipino, or American or what. There can be something of an issue of identity for them sometimes. They're not one of the other. They're both, and they can switch. One day like in a karaoke bar, they can feel 100% Filipino. The next day, they might be in the US Embassy and sitting around with a whole bunch of other Americans and they behave and feel themselves to be less like a Filipino, and more like an American.

Yes the switching I understand. You can see that on a much more local level here in the UK with Brits.

I recollect as a kid going with my sister to the town near us. The change was subtle but she communicated with her friends in that town differently than she did at home. She used words that were more common to that town, her accent even took a slight change. This town was just 5 or 6 miles from where we lived. I even mentioned the change to her.

When my wife applied to come to the UK I included a letter for the ECO saying, should we have kids I want them to be able to communicate in their mothers language. As it happens, it hasnt worked out that way. They know a few words but the kids will seemingly will/are fully’ British. They are dual citizens but should they wish to fully to integrate into filipino life they need speak Tagalog/Bisaya.

the kids and languages thing a lot depends on their age. With that guy who immigrated age 10 he's already fully learned the language at that age. He's learnt how to write it. He'll never forget it. Might get a bit rusty, and in fact he did tell me that he had a bit of a time at first understanding people when he first went back to the Philippines with his parents as a teenager, but he'll never forget it entirely. But if they immigrate at a younger age, like 5, by the age of 10 unless their parents make a really big effort to keep them up with it, and which they may well not want to do because they'll want to make sure they are good at English first and foremost, they'll just forget the Philippines' language.

you see it even in the Philippines itself. I know one girl in Manila who'd moved to Manila from Samar aged about 10. Suddenly she spoke, not Waray as before, but Tagalog like 99% of the time. Her parents wanted the family to speak Tagalog in the house so everybody could adjust to the new environment just like parents may well want to do if they move to the UK or the USA. Now she says she can hardly speak Waray at all and were she to go back to Samar (oddly, she never has) she is scared she would take a while to pick it up again. But had she been like 5 and not 10 when she moved, she'd almost have to learn Waray anew, completely from scratch. Age makes a tremendous difference.

as for kids with just one foreigner immigrant parent and who are born in the foreign country they have very little chance to learn unless the foreign language community is a large one, like the Pakistani community in the UK is. I bet the Urdu language skills of UK kids born to Pakistani immigrant parents are better than the Filipino language skills of kids born to Filipino immigrants is. There is just more of them, therefore more exposure, and more chance to practice.

I remember having some Thai children customers in the UK when they had only recently arrived. I identified them as Thai because they were babbling in Thai language in the queue. When I served them I spoke to them in my very basic Thai, like 'what do you want?', 'yes/no', the numbers, and 'thank you', which as kids they thought was really cool that a farang in this new country could address them in basic Thai. But then years later after a long gap, I saw the same two kids as customers by now teenagers perhaps 13/14. I spoke to them in Thai again, but this time they didn't respond at all. They had become British. They didn't want to speak in Thai even for something small and basic. It was not something that they associated with their present and future. It was as if they didn't want to be reminded that they were Thai. Being Thai was when they were little kids. Now they were British.

Haha. My ex wife was born and brought up in Scotland till her teens and then moved to Manchester. She ended up speaking in both a strong Dundee type Scottish accent and an English accent. Could turn it on and off like a light switch. It came in handy at times.