Just got back from Philippines (Holiday romance!) Help

Hi all and Thanks admin

My story

Just went to visit my friend working on a construction project in Manila. 9 solid days

I went on tinder and matched 500 women in 1.5 weeks, meeting a few but only 1 blew me away. (I've heard the stories of the lads with bar girls and playing off tinder dates who got messy and attached and it doesn't impress me)

I am now back in England, London and considering persuing this girl.

I've been to Thailand x5, Cambodia, Myanmarr,Indonesia, China and now Philippines! Wow I liked it

Me:
27 y/o with a normal admin job salary of about 20-22K
Previously with a Thai woman for 2.5 years in England but saw the cultural differences and family ties and she had kids...
Not had many girlfriends but experienced seeing Thais, Polish, Brazilian women.
In the UK i had some hard times courting Filipino women and every conversation went dead and ignored after a while... (Felt different in Manila as there was more choice etc)
Quite a confident guy and do the gym so not your average "not many girlfriends guy" you're visioning

Girl:
26 y/o with a normal phone/admin job (Unsure on Salary but her accent english is very American so able to get on somewhere like England)
Have spent 5 days and 5 nights with her mixing with my friend and his colleague. We actually had a triple date a couple of nights but the others have gone off the girls as they are focusing on work and other women.
She's been in Manila for a long time working in offices like tech support calls and did computer programming at college/uni and is from NEGROS Island
I hear she has like 7 siblings (Big family IMO)
She has a few friends in England married to western men.


STEPS?

I ideally want to be in UK with her permanently

Do I go back to Manila to see my friend and her for more time while getting her a working VISA for UK and not marry into anything?

Agreeing with her if she comes to UK that we will look after ourselves and not support family

Agree if kids they will be brought up Western and the only times going back to Philippines is to visit/holiday?

ANY OTHER CHECKLISTS?

Should I forget this person? (I believe I have seen and been around enough women really looking for commitment to trust my gut feeling that this girl is for me if I want to strive for her)

She may be the girl for you but are you sure you're the guy for her?

Personally my thoughts are that you should do her a favour and keep well clear!

get yourself off to your local special clinic. you cant be too careful

All together now Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Loves young dream

You've been smitten young man, doubt she would ever get a working visa, maybe a 6 month visitor visa.

You need to go back there and spend some time with her on her own.

If there is truly a spark there most off your above questions will answer themselves

Good luck

I just had a voice call with her and she's just fine if I am worrying about it. She's not pushing anything and says whatever happens in the future will happen and she'd like me to spend more time with her whether its next month or next year etc.

I get the feeling she's a little bit of a "Waiter"/ "Let nature take its course"

I told her for now, keep in touch, be friends and don't talk so much unless we're gonna cross paths. She's fine with it as long as I'm comfortable.

If you are thinking "checklist" then she's not "the one". Otherwise you wouldn't need to think it.

Well I'm an over thinker. And I need to come here and these forums exist because things in past and family experiences make me question everything to be honest.

Next question? If you marry a Filipino in UK does that mean they can stay or will there still be complications?

It's easy to keep in touch these days with Whatsapp and Facebok etc . See how it goes and how you both feel after you've been back a while .

Maybe like many , you will want to return to spend more time with her and get to know her better and maybe meet her family.

Maybe like some holiday romances it will just fade away now you are back . It's too soon to make any long term plans yet , so take your time . Good luck with whatever you decide .

Ok; on that basis then:

Unless she's got a skill that's in demand in the UK, she will not qualify for a Work Visa - she would need to be a Registered Nurse (for example).

She's agreed with you because she likes you and doesn't want to scare you away. But. You'll need to be flexible and accept that there will be times when she has to remit monies to her family.

Fairly normal situation.

No checklists! At all.

Your decision but you should return to the Philippines and both of you take a couple of weeks vacation and get away somewhere on your own. You could suggest you meet her family for a couple of days or so which she would appreciate. Get her to teach you all about Mano Po first, though.

is she married?
has she ever been married ?

No she's just a normal girl doing her thing working out her career and growing up.

Her friend in the UK says she got married to an English guy and can stay.

What's the rules on marriage with a Filipino on UK soil?

You need to start searching the forum for visa threads. It will certainly cost you a few grand and be a long drawn out process for anything other than a visit (only) visa for her.

https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&s...FjAAegQIERAB&usg=AOvVaw0zb0IwQdd5AaoIdBIS1jP1

Did you enjoy your recent visit?

Yes thanks. Sadly, I'm posting this in NAIA departure lounge.

Have you seen my pics

You need to know more about her before you do anything. Visit at least once more and see if its still the same feeling. We all went through the same process as you. But as they say, time will tell.

Once you think that its okay, you can proceed with the over thinking. A fiance visa or spouse visa will cost you between 2-3k on top of producing tons of documents.