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Wanting to know more about filippinos

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Keither, Dec 28, 2017.

  1. Bluebird71
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    Bluebird71 Well-Known Member

    As are all Filipinos. Really get dragged down by people assuming certain traits exist in nearly all people of certain nationalities.
  2. bigmac
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    bigmac Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    why do you say its a wind-up ?
  3. Keither
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    Keither Member

    No I don't like the smell of it either. All my friends think He just wants marriage so he can get a working visa or get his hands on my money. The fact that he didn't show any attraction to me (not looking)-but still says he wants marriage and no sex before-raised so many red flags I told him it wasn't for me.I also learned that he gets guys to buy him trainers and other stuff because he has a 'shoe obsession'.
  4. Keither
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    Oh dear I tjink some people are being 'snowflakes' here and being overly sensitive and overly politically correct.
    Yes cultures do have certain distinctive qualities/values that develop unique character traits.What's wrong with sayingt this?
    I've already made clear it's nor a value judgement just an observation. .and filipinos do have a reputation for their hospitality and warm.natures that alot of people have reiterated to me.
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  5. Keither
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    "Rather base behaviour"-what on earth for?-that sounds like victorian values to me or the reserved,undemonstrative demeanour that's so stereotypically English.
    It is the most natural thing in the world to kiss the one you love.Only an emotionally repressed culture woukd take such a view.
    In Spain or Italy or France you see it all the time.
  6. Keither
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    Keither Member

    Of course it's not a wind up.This is the first time I had a date with a Filipino and some of the signals were confusing.Quite natural to experience this and ask for guidance I woukd have thought.
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  7. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Agreed sad reflection of a mindset.
  8. Keither
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    Keither Member

    What is sad about saying cultures influence the personality or behaviour of people living on them?-oh snowflakey political correctness gone loopy.Whatever.
  9. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    In your OP you talk about " plenty of Filipino's back home" are you Filipino? Or are you referring to the Filipino back home?
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  10. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Assumption of traits based on assumptions is the sad bit.
  11. bigmac
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    most of south east asia would sell their souls for a western visa. perfectly undestandable.

    back in 2011 when i first started seeing my ( now ) wife...she was already here in the UK working on a student visa----she was upfront with me about her intentions. she wanted to settle in the UK--and bring her kids over. her best bet was to find a UK husband. we were both married to others at the time. so we had lots of hoops to jump through.

    all changed in 2012----july the new sponsorship rules came in--****-----and her student visa expired. around that time i joined the other uk / pinas website--and was discussing my dilemna. someone said mine was to be a marriage of convenience !---how extraordinary---!! of course it bloody well was---AS INDEED THEY ALL ARE . all couples get married for what they can get out of it....be it sex--security--companionship--money---or--worst of all--love. that really screws it all up.

    as regards settlement visas--why should a couple have to get married ?
  12. Keither
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    Keither Member

    No I'm not filipino I'm British.I used the term 'back home' I was referring to filipinos back in their home country.Sorry of that wasn't clear.
  13. Keither
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    Keither Member

    OMG there really is a miserable over pcness amongst some ppl.It is not my 'assumption' ie anybody else's.It's an accurate description, universally repeated Inc by filipinos themselves.A cultural trait.
    Is it somwhow politically incorrect to state that certain cultures have unique traits?
    Snowflakes lol
  14. Mattecube
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    Mattecube face the sunshine so shadows fall behind you Trusted Member

    Did I say it was? I was referring to the assumptions of many worldwide that they make based on assumptive traits of pre conceived peer pressure ignorance of how the world ticks.
  15. Dave_E
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    Dave_E Well-Known Member Trusted Member

    You say you met one Fillipino guy who is not interested in you, but hope he might marry you even though you think it will not work.

    What an idiot you are! :lol:

    Move on, find somebody else.
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  16. graham59
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    Ho hum.
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  17. Maharg
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    Depends whsy you mean by kissing I guess. If you mean a full on, passionate kiss then the phrase "get a room" comes to mind. Typically English? Your Filipino partner clearly feels the same way.

    I reckon you have a lot of growing up to do before you think about marriage to anyone.
  18. PorkAdobo
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    I know of precisely zero gay men who choose to refrain from (gay) sex before marriage. This includes the UK and the Philippines.

    You will presumably know far more gay men than me. Of those who are out of the closet, how many are saving themselves for their big day?

    The thread is either a complete wind up, or the poor OP is being played like a bad tempered game of Monopoly.
  19. Bluebird71
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    Yes, they do. You're falling into the trap of generalizing (the snowflake tag shows this to be a trait for you). Judge each person as an individual and you'll be fine.
  20. Bluebird71
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    Your friends are, slightly, ill informed. He can't get a working visa through marriage. He can get a spouse visa.

    If you are seriously contemplating marrying someone who shows little to no affection for you, feels cold towards you, and whose actions have brought you here to ask these questions, then maybe there is one born every minute.

    What traits are so unique that they apply to only circa 120 million people on the planet?

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